[cheetahGirrrll]

Well recently I posted a question about whether or not I should date my bestfriends exboyfriend but didn't mention about his past... he used to be a heroin addict and robbed one of my exboyfriends houses a long time ago he went to jail and served his time and went to rehab... I thought he had changed but lately he's been acting different and is starting to rob people again. A couple days ago my friend invited me and my other friend over to sleep at her house while her parents were away and she said he could come over... so he came over and everything seemed fine he slept there and then he slept there agen the next night. When her parents came home they noticed some money was missing so her mom quickly went to go check her jewelry and a lot of expensive jewelry was missing. They questioned my friend(the one who invited me to sleepover) and she told them who was at her house. Her parents thought me and him had robbed there house so she callled the cops and had a detective come I talked to the parents and told them that I had nothing to do with this. When the detective came and found his fingerprints all over the jewelry box. He still denies to me that he did it and his friend told me he had failed a drug test recently for dope and robbed another friend of his house. Was he being honest when he told me how much he loved me? And how much he wanted to be with me? I want to hate him but I cant... I just want him to get help. I really don't know what to do.

[Alty]

There's nothing you can do, getting help is up to him and him alone.

Your options are to stay with him, accept the lying, the drug use and the stealing, or leave and move on with your life.

Love is blind but it doesn't have to be stupid too.

Good luck.

[akez]

You don't want anyone like that -relationship wise in your life. He will always be fighting this addiction and you will be subject to his crimes as long as your involved with him. Offer your support on a friendship basis but don't get tangled up in this. You want a future with a real man, who is going to go out and earn his money not steal and rob others of their hard work earnings.

[cheetahGirrrll]

Thank you.


but I don't know everyone tells me to stay away from him. But I can't we became too close for me to just forget about him. I just never know if he's lying to me because he denies the whole thing about robbing from my friends house, and then tells me he could never lie to me.
I just don't know what to do=/ and now my parents want me to have no contact with him at all

[Alty]

Your parents are smart, they see where this will lead.

It's up to you, like I said, either accept him the way he is or move on. You can't change his addiction or his actions, that's up to him, the only thing you can do is control your own life and where it takes you. Stay or go, it's your choice.

Good luck.

[akez]

Your parents are in the right, you don't have to forget him, just keep it on a friendly basis. Your parents see this guy as someone who won't do good for you. And as painful has it might be, you know they are right.