[Aaronsgurl16]

So I was wondering if it was possible to move out of your parents home when you are 16 without getting emancipated. I have already found someone to stay with and who can take care of me. And the problem at home is I have no REAL family. We get into huge fights all the time and sometimes my step dad hits me and my mom always says I deserve it then she threatens me. Also my friend ran away when she was 16 and the police brought her back three times and on the third time they said the couldn't bring her back anymore because they had no sufficient evidence of her being in danger where she ran away to. Could I do that?

[N0help4u]

The problem with 'running away' for ONE thing is that your parents can press charges at any time they choose to. Even if they tell you and the other person they are okay with it they can change their mind. Then your friends can get in trouble for harboring a minor as well as possible other charges depending on the circumstances the police feel they can be charged with... aiding and abetting, accessory to your running away, contributing to the delinquency of a minor,

[Aaronsgurl16]

Okay. So the real question is can I move? Like I said I have a place and someone willing to take me in.

[N0help4u]

You need your parents permission and it is best to get it through the court as in adoption.
To get emancipated you have to be working and able to afford your own place and have your parents approval, NOT move in with somebody.
What state/country do you live in? Is this a family? A boyfriend? A female friend?

[Aaronsgurl16]

North carolina. And its my boyfriends grandparents who said they would take me in. And my mom would never give me permission to move.

[N0help4u]

Then you need to wait until you turn 18

[Aaronsgurl16]

But I know my mom would also never press charges or go to court.

[N0help4u]

You say she would never give you permission or go to court but the question is would she call the police and report you as a run away or missing?

[stinawords]

You can not move with out your parents permission. You can not even be emacnipated in the states that allow emancipation if you aren't able to live on your own (not with your boy friends grandparents) you would have to prove that you have a job that will pay your rent and utilities with money left over to finish school and food. If you decide to run away your mother just has to call the police and they will bring you back and if you do it again you mother can actually let you sit in juvy for a while if they offer it to her (I've seen it happen). If you think your problems are that much worse than any other teenager then talk to your school counselor they will know who to contact in your area if they think it is bad as well.

[Aaronsgurl16]

She might call them. But she wouldnu report me. She already knows where I am most likely to go. And she wouldn't get me involved in court. Because she don't have the money. And she is too lazy to care.

[N0help4u]

She doesn't have to have money to report you or anything like that.
So you THINK you can just leave home and she will just go about her life as if you are there and not do anything??
Realistically can you tell me what you think your mom would do?
You say she already knows where you would be so all she has to do is get the police to go with her to pick you up and bring you back home. She can press charges without having the money to go through court.

[stinawords]

Nohelp beat me to it. She dosen't need money. You are the one that needs money to be able to support yourself. She can press charges for free! She has the state on her side it would be you that would have to hire a lawyer to prove that she is an unfit parent.

[Aaronsgurl16]

What abot adoption then

[stinawords]

Do you have someone that would be willing to adopt you? If so they can ask your mother if she would be willing to relinquish her rights. Do you have a bio father somewhere? He would also have a say in if you are able to be adopted.

[N0help4u]

You have already said your mother would not approve of anything so how do you think she is going to go for allowing you to be adopted?

[Aaronsgurl16]

My bio father doesn't want me. He hates me. He told me to never visit him. But do I have to have permission from her to be adopted if I'm being hit and cursed at and threatened

[stinawords]

Yes!! You are still a minor you have to have your mothers permission for everything! If you are being physically abused then call family and child services or child protection (the same thing but different names depending on where you are). The can come and document all your bruses and what not and remove you from the home if they find evidence of abuse. Then you will be in foster care with one of their pre approved families taking in fosters. So, if that will be better than where you are now then do it.

[N0help4u]

You would have to get Child Protective Services involved and then they have to determine that she is abusing you which she most likely would put on a perfect mother act. Then if they were to determine she was abusive then the CPS would MAYBE consider your bf's grandparents to adopt you BUT you very easily could end up in a foster home with strangers.

[Aaronsgurl16]

My mom isn't the one doing it. Its my step dad. She is the one agreeing with it though and yelling constantly.

[N0help4u]

So now you are saying that your mother will not agree to you being emancipated but she WILL agree to you being adopted?