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    Dallasboy Posts: 32, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 4, 2008, 09:02 AM
    Just confused if they say they don't care why do they call
    Real quick I finally stopped talking to my ex at first we talked once or twice a week I sent her a txt two days in a row basically saying that it was weird spending time with other people and I missed her. Well a day passed and she called and left me a message saying that she didn’t care she just wanted to check up on each other from time to time and she also said don't let me regret giving you my new number. So I just decided not to call her are take her phone calls anymore. It’s been a week and I have not contacted her in anyway she has called three times and I don’t answer she leaves messages saying she wants to know how I'm doing. I haven’t returned any calls sticking to total no contact. Well she called my mom today asking her if she had talked to me. Why does she do that if she doesn’t care anymore? What should I think about this? I still love her but I can't talk to her because I still want her back. Should I call and say I'm OK are just keep doing what I'm doing until I can talk to her
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    Aug 4, 2008, 09:05 AM
    One word... Guilt.. It's an incredibly powerful emotion, it will cause you to be curious about others. You stopped showing her attention, so now she wonders why. I'll tell you why, you picked you b@lls up off the floor and started walking away... Don't even look back, keep right on walking
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    Aug 4, 2008, 10:20 AM
    Your in the early stage of starting the healing process, keep with no contact, and be busy, and unavailable. You will feel the confusion lifting from your mind, and reality will be clearer, IF you stay on this path.
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    Aug 4, 2008, 10:24 AM
    Why does she do that if she doesn't care anymore? What should I think about this?
    See post #2,

    Your right though, if they cared enough you would be together, so someone is full of BS!
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    Aug 4, 2008, 10:39 AM
    She wants to heal her wounds of breaking up with you slow.
    You are right NO CONTACT because she is just calling to heal her own hurts when she gets a pang that she misses you to ease her own pain. Nothing to do with wanting you back or anything... just her won weaning process to get over you.
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