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jamiesmith · Jul 30, 2008, 11:40 AM

I've had sex with a numerous amount of peopl and by no means do I finish early... ofcourse there is the odd time where there is nothing I can do. However, when I'm doing with mygirlfriend it always seems to feel like it is going to be over quick! Also, when we do have a long session, she never gets to climaxing or orgasms, any suggestions? I think she is just really hard to get to orgasm.. some ideas in ways to last longer and make it more pleasurable for her would be great.

smoothy · Jul 30, 2008, 12:12 PM

Ages please... this is key to a good answer.

ylaira · Jul 30, 2008, 04:48 PM

How early? 5 minutes?

jamiesmith · Jul 30, 2008, 05:40 PM

When its quick it is usually like 3-5 min.. and 19.. like I've done it plenty of times before and not really had ne problems like go an easy15 sometimes... id say like 3 of5 times is quick and its only with her... we have been dating for a year and a half but only having sex for like 2 3 months

ylaira · Jul 30, 2008, 05:44 PM

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kp2171 · Jul 30, 2008, 05:51 PM

As mentioned, some questions are needed...

How old are you and how old is she?

Can she ever reach orgasm with intercourse? With oral? With self stimulation?

What is your "arrangement" for sex... your own place? Others around? Privacy?

Using protection?

Lets start here first.

DuBas07 · Jul 31, 2008, 05:44 PM

Ive penetrated some girls for long periods with no orgasm, some women just cant. Oral sex helps tremendously. My way over getting over PE is here: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...-240138-3.html

Synnen · Jul 31, 2008, 10:07 PM

Please refrain from using chat speak on the Adult Sexuality boards. The word is "really", not "rly" and "any" not "ne".

If you can not type like an adult, I will feel the need to delete your posts with the assumption that you've lied about your age, and are actually NOT an adult, and therefore should not be posting in Adult Sexuality.

As far as your question goes---focus on HER. Make it less about actual intercourse, and more about making her get into the moment. More touching, more sensuality, more teasing, more kissing--everywhere!

Many women can not orgasm from intercourse. Get her a vibrator, and ask her to masturbate in front of you, and to TEACH you how she touches herself. Every woman is different, of course, but if she can't please herself, chances are you can't please her either. Learn together!

Also--focusing more on her should distract you a bit from YOU, making you last longer.

Choux · Aug 1, 2008, 12:57 PM

Women are responsible for their own sexuality... that includes their family and religion's negative viewpoints about female sexuality... they have to *free their own spirit*.

What you can do is be helpful to her within reason. Get her a helpful book on becoming orgasmic which includes lessions.

DrLang · Aug 1, 2008, 07:40 PM

To deal with the problems of your girlfriend not being able to reach orgasm, I highly recommend trying out oral sex. If you don't ever try oral sex, you might also find it useful in keeping things fresh (by fresh I mean new, not hygienic).

As for your premature ejaculation, this probably has to do with feeling more self-conscious around her. Perhaps you have feelings for her that are much stronger than you felt for anyone else. I had this problem with my fiancée for a good year at least. We just took it slow. Over time, as I became more comfortable with her, this problem has subsided. You might also try the various "climax control" condoms on the market, but I warn you, they make your penis numb and might make you lose your erection. Worth a try though.

smoothy · Aug 4, 2008, 05:03 AM

The OP is refusing to answer the age question. That along with kidlike chatspeak leads me to believe they are underage.

Synnen · Aug 4, 2008, 05:44 AM

Actually, he did answer the age question. Post #4 in this thread.

smoothy · Aug 4, 2008, 06:34 AM

Originally Posted by Synnen

Actually, he did answer the age question. Post #4 in this thread.

Ok... I missed that before. My bad.

Dewynn · Aug 4, 2008, 10:44 AM

You are asking two questions, Jamie. As far as your own early ejaculation sometimes, you are still very young and it varies. The more you exercise, especially cardio, the longer you'll be able to go. At least that was conventional wisdom in the army. You may also try Kegel exercises
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How to do Kegel Exercises - Kegel Exercises for Men

Be sure to follow the directions, squeezing exercises are performed SLOWLY and GRADUALLY. Painful voice of experience here.

As far as your girlfriend, there are women who need assistance when climaxing. This has nothing to do with size or partner. Don't feel bad about it and certainly beware of her feelings if you address the issue.