[ggaines81088]

I am a 20yr old account rep at a credit union, which is similar to a bank teller. I was trained over my break from school by this HR guy. He is 5 years older than me. Hes not gorgeous, but I think he's cute. He is mature, very nice and has a good sense of humor. My brother use to work at the credit union as well, so I use to think he was nice to me because of that. Now Ive seen him enough to know that he is a very friendly, nice person, I mean you have to be to work in HR. He is single and he lives with his brother. I think he may have commitment issues because when we were talking about a coworker who is his age and just had a kid, this guy remarked "im a year older than him and Im so far away from having a family"

I started full time this summer. When I came back I saw he had been promoted and now he is one of my supervisors. When I started on my first day I saw he had sent me an email over my training saying “Hope you have a nice first day on the floor. I also hope you'll have a good rest of the semester at school” with a smiley face at the end, and that I just didn't see it before. It made me way too happy. I know he is just doing his job and its just a crush. I would never act on it, so don't think I am unprofessional. (I am sure he has no idea either- I never talk about it to anybody because Im terrified he'll figure it out.)
The job is quite stressful and being flustered around him and feeling very stupid whenever I make a mistake does not help at all. My first week by myself was quite awful but apparently that's pretty normal. However, because of him and having him explain to me my mistakes and trying to fix my mistakes I was more upset than I should have been. The other day he gave me a bunch of work to do and when I said “why don't you give some to so and so?” he said “because you're my favorite” I know he's just joking around, but again, it got me way too happy. I agreed to drive my coworkers to their cars when it was pouring outside, he said to me "Thats a very nice thing for you to do" Again, I got way too happy. It is nice I guess he thinks Im good because he has asked me to do things before but it is not like he gives me attention all the time, I think he's just trying to be a good boss.

I wish he would just like me a little bit. I am attractive. Not saying it to be arrogant, its not like I use it to get guys or anything. In fact, there is a guy my age who is an account rep too and likes me (I only like him as a friend) we talk a lot and I am actually worried my boss thinks I do like him, I have had other coworkers make comments like we shouldn't work next to each other which is ridiculous. I sincerely doubt he would look at me that way. Will this ever go away? Its to the point where I hate working at his branch.

[Rockstar714]

Your co-workers shouldn't say things like that, but if they're saying things like that about you and the other guy that you don't like, then maybe you're giving off the vibe that you like that guy.

As far as the HR guy goes... it sounds like he's just a nice guy and you're reading into it. It might go away when he finds out that you like him and he nicely lets you down, but for now you need to occupy yourself with a guy OUTSIDE OF WORK. Cos its not usually a good idea to date a coworker.

I'm sure you are attractive, but this HR guy knows the line between work and recreation and he doesn't want to mix the two.

[plonak]

Ok well honestly you need to get over your little crush.. he is not going to risk his job over a girl that he barely knows.. so it's harsh I know, but it's true..

I think he is doing his job.. and you need to stop thinking about him sexually.. when he tells you something nice, remember it's his job and try to focus your attention on your task.. jobs are hard to come by now-a-days so don't let this get you fired..

Are you religious? If so, you can pray to God that he will take those thoughts away.. if you urnestly want him to, he will.. good luck