[CFZD]

I have a guy friend who LOVES to take me out for dinners. He doesn't want me to pay, he always says " my treat!" We both like to try ethnic food and we talk about academic, life, work, etc nothing romantic. We don't even hug or had any type of physical contact.

Do guys treat their female friends that nice? He even took me out on V's day! But we are just friends sharing similar interest.

He recently emailed me suggesting we shall grab dinner again, I haven't replied him yet because I am confused on his constant invitation.

P.S. He is a very kind person, but he won't take his other female friends for dinner. Again, I swear nothing romantic between us.

Additional information: he is younger than me, we both study the same subject at school. I am now working, he is a Junior in college.

[N0help4u]

If you are happy with just going out with him enjoy the 'free ride' but don't get too emotionally attached until you know that is where it is going.
If you can't ever see yourself interested in him in a romantic way maybe you should bring it up that you are happy to have someone that is happy with a friends only relationship. Cause if you don't let him know you aren't interested in him more then he could take it as you lead him on even if you didn't.
If you really want to know how he feels find a very subtle way to ask him or lead him into the subject.
Like a lot of people come on here asking why the person they were seeing is avoiding them then further down by post #7 they are saying they don't understand they went out twice and then txted the person asking "why did you dump our courtship, thought the relationship was progressing nicely so whats up?"
That is definitely enough to scare someone off.

[CFZD]

Yes, I did ask him if he was dating me? He said he thought we were just close.
But then , he dresses up for dinner wearing colonges he never put on in daily life. I think he is confused himself, well, he is young.

This guy is a very kind person, he takes care of his grandparents everyday, and he is very honest. I find this very precious.

[N0help4u]

He may just be overly cautious not wanting to get hurt or get in over what he can handle.
Enjoy his company and let it go at his pace.

[HistorianChick]

I have a guy friend who is very similar. There is nothing going on between us romantically, but he treats me like gold. We've talked about starting a relationship, but we're both not in the place for it. I just moved out of state, but when I lived near him he'd take me out, just to "hang out." We'd catch movies, dinners, or go for ice cream... each time, he refused to let me pay. I think I paid once... but that was because I told him before hand that since it was MY idea I WAS PAYING! :)

Some guys are just sweethearts! Don't take advantage of his sweetness and keep offering to pay... or do things that don't require money. Have a picnic or watch a movie at home. He sounds like a great friend.

[N0help4u]

Yeah guys like that tend not to let you pay but if you say in advance as historianchick did and even make it a special thing like his birthday and tell him it is because he treats you so good then how can he refuse.

[CFZD]

No, I don't take advantage of him, I like him a lot as well. He does take me to movie and go to ice cream as well, just like yours, LOL.

I, on the other hand feel bad because he is always paying, I wanted to pay my part every time, he didn't let me and he got slighted upset if I bring it up, what do I suppose to do?
He LOVES to go to restaurant, I did cook home and bring to his but he prefers going out! Sigh.

[CFZD]

Yes, N0help4u, I bought him gift during my travel abroad, I will give it to him next time I meet him.:) That's a shirt, is it too personal?

[HistorianChick]

Tell him before hand that you are going to treat him to a night special for him. There doesn't have to be anything romantic about it, but you want to show that you value his friendship as much as he does yours.

Do what I did. I called him up and said, "Hey ..., I am going to get a pizza and watch 300 tonight. I'd love to have you join me, say, 7 oclock??" That way, it is your plan, your idea, your dinner, your money. It shows him that you've thought about it in advance and that you want to spend time with him.

:) Good luck!

[CFZD]

Good idea, but I don't bring males to my home.
LOL, don't laugh I don't go to male's home either, because my mum told me not to when I was little.

[HistorianChick]

That's not a problem.

The basic idea remains the same. You plan the night. For example, "Hey ..., I have a craving for pizza. I am going to .... pizza shop at 7 and having my favorite super supreme. After that, I am going to go check out the new Batman movie. Want to join me?"

[N0help4u]

Then maybe plan a picnic and bike riding at a park that has a lake or something