[Sad Soul]

Long story short: he is literally the best looking man on earth. He's a 28 year-old gentleman and veryyy smart. My friends even said he's the best looking guy they've possibly ever seen. Words can't even describe his perfection... he's almost too good to be true.

So I find it very strange that on the night we met, his friends were saying that he was mustering up the courage to come and talk to me. He even went by me a few times and then would turn right around and go back to the other side of the room... odd.

Before we went on our first date (our only date) he would call and text me a lot. He would text like crazy, and I found these texts annoying and, for lack of a better word, weird. Yet, to my surprise, I had a very good time on our first date. I even told him I was glad he was sane because his texting messed with me a little.

On our first date, I had to cut it short after an hour. He offered to drive me home, but I said no. We didn't hug and we didn't kiss. Yikes. My friends told me that he must think that I'm not interested, so that night I sent him a text saying I had a good time.

Here's the confusing part: He texts me back the NEXT morning, on which we text back and forth, with me leaving the last message. I was then shocked when he followed up to the new stream of messages by skipping a day to get back to me. Then I thought, okay this is enough phone texting, I'll call. This was the first time I had called him (he had done all the calling prior to our first date).

I called, but there was no answer, so I left a text asking what he was doing for the weekend. He wrote back on a Friday morning (three days later): Hi Lynn, I'm going to a bbq and playing baseball. How did your interview go?

Is he interested? I'm totally confused. Why would he take a few days to write back to me when I asked such a pivotal question like "what are you up to this weekend?" Also, why would he get back to me on a Friday to tell me what he's up to on the weekend?
My instincts would say he's not interested (considering he hasn't called), but then again he did send a text with a question... as if he wants communication to continue? I don't get it? Is he trying to play it cool?

[N0help4u]

Maybe text him saying something to the effect of
I take it you must be a really busy person so I would rather not bother you
BUT please feel free to keep in touch and talk with me any time. Maybe we could even grab some lunch sometime.

[Sad Soul]

Maybe text him saying something to the effect of
I take it you must be a really busy person so I would rather not bother you
BUT please feel free to keep in touch and talk with me any time. Maybe we could even grab some lunch sometime.

Hey! Thanks for the response!

So, I take it that you're also unclear as to whether he's interested or not? Everyone I've talked to has said it's damn confusing. And all my guy friends say they would never be dumb enough to text a girl with a question and see how she's doing, if they want to get rid of her... but that it is strange he hasn't called.

I'm totally confused. I sent him a text today (about three days after he sent that last text - I've taken a long time to answer because at first I wasn't even going to, thinking he doesn't like me). I wrote, "Hey Mike, my interview was good. Yet I'm confused as to whether this courtship is degenerating. Do u want to get together?"

I think that seems pressure-less, so it should be safe enough if he's not interested. It's a super laid back text (I hope).

[N0help4u]

Using words like courtship could be making him back off because he could feel like you are reading too much
Into 'A date'

[Sad Soul]

Using words like courtship could be making him back off because he could feel like you are reading too much
into 'A date'

I agree with you, and I would never write that in any other circumstance, but the reason why I thought it wouldn't be a big deal was because prior to our date he would send messages like "I'm excited for our date" or things as corny as "I have a date with a pretty one tomorrow".

Even when he asked me out the night we met he would say "so I can take you on a date next week?" and I would change the language to "yeah I guess we can hang out..."

Ugh it's just one big semantic mess? My texting style isn't very colloquial in speech... I hope he became familiar with that and doesn't think I'm crazy for the text today.

[talaniman]

STOP RIGHT HERE!!!!

Did you read what you've written? Your putting a lot of assumptions, and speculations, into texting and ONE date??

Stop texting! Phone calls only, and only once, leave a message, and get back to your busy life. Don't get so carried away this early, you'll drive yourself coocoo!

All your questions of interest on his part, and no consideration for being busy?? That's the obvious answer.

"Hey Mike, my interview was good. Yet I'm confused as to whether this courtship is degenerating. Do u want to get together?"

You are still strangers, and courtship?? Even guys like me run hearing words like that after ONE date, and a few texts.

Calm down, catch your breath, and wait a few weeks, (yes weeks) then call to see what's up, and if he has overcome his FEAR! Or if his interest overcomes his fear!

[Sad Soul]

STOP RIGHT HERE!!!!

Did you read what you've written? Your putting a lot of assumptions, and speculations, into texting and ONE date????

Stop texting! Phone calls only, and only once, leave a message, and get back to your busy life. Don't get so carried away this early, you'll drive yourself coocoo!

All your questions of interest on his part, and no consideration for being busy??? Thats the obvious answer.



You are still strangers, and courtship?????? Even guys like me run hearing words like that after ONE date, and a few texts.

Calm down, catch your breath, and wait a few weeks, (yes weeks) then call to see whats up, and if he has overcome his FEAR!! Or if his interest overcomes his fear!

Okay, but I'm definitely not going to call after my last text. And Tal, I'm generally a little silly... like 95 percent of the time men do fall head over heals for me... I'm not saying I'm a hot number, but men find me funny? Anyway, you're right... I should be more cautious when someone doesn't really know me. Last thing I want is for this guy to think I've already picked out a wedding dress.