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number1tank · Jul 10, 2008, 11:32 PM

OK, so my wife was out on the town with some girl friends. She kissed a girl because I asked and sent me a picture.

Since then I have wanted her to (do more) with another woman. Possibly bring another woman home with her.

First aspect of this question... What are some tips to look for if she would want to do more with another woman,

2nd part of the question, how do I make it happen...

Anyone with experience with this?

Yes, fantasy, but...

ChihuahuaMomma · Jul 10, 2008, 11:36 PM

Don't do it. There could be consequences.

Alty · Jul 10, 2008, 11:40 PM

You're married, and you want to have a threesome, well, I don't know what to say.

Since you asked though, and even though I don't agree with it, I'll give you some advice. Both you and your wife have to be comfortable and okay with this. It's best that you don't choose a friend that you or your wife knows, someone that is pretty much a stranger to both of you, someone you'll never see again.

You do realize that this type of fantasy, when brought to reality, usually doesn't work well, in fact, it will most likely end up in divorce. But hey, who cares, as long as you get your fantasy.

When does she get to bring a man home and fulfill her fantasy?

ChihuahuaMomma · Jul 10, 2008, 11:42 PM

I would have to agree with Altenweg 2834728934%

I also want to point out that this is a great way to introduce std's into your marriage.

Alty · Jul 10, 2008, 11:46 PM

STD's, extramarital affairs, intramarital affairs, divorce, litigations, oh so many possibilities.

Nope, this isn't the way to go. Do you remember your vows? Remember, when you where at the church, in front of all those people, something about forsaking all others? Ring a bell?

ChihuahuaMomma · Jul 10, 2008, 11:47 PM

Again, I have to agree!1

number1tank · Jul 10, 2008, 11:49 PM

Yeah I'm thinking its not a good idea... keep as a fantacy and move on/...

Alty · Jul 10, 2008, 11:51 PM

Nothing wrong with fantasy, but some fantasies shouldn't become reality. This is one of them. You don't want to lose your wife over one night of fun. I'm glad you won't be going there, some road are better left untravelled, trust me on this one. :)

ChihuahuaMomma · Jul 10, 2008, 11:52 PM

I would think so. Have you suggested perhaps watching porn of a threesome with your wife? Perhaps that's the safest way to live out this fantasy. There are certain things that you give up once you say "I do". And outrageous fantasies are one of them. Especially if you want to keep that marriage alive. Have you asked her what her fantasies are? You could possibly have as much fun or more living out one of hers (as long as its safe).

Alty · Jul 10, 2008, 11:52 PM

Safe and just the two of you.

number1tank · Jul 10, 2008, 11:57 PM

Yeah that's the funny thing and I think the real reason I ask this question///// she doesn't like sex..?

However, when she came home that night I popped a porn in... first time we watched one and she was all about the sex... maybe the alcohol?? Not sire

Alty · Jul 11, 2008, 12:00 AM

Porns are okay until they become a crutch, too much of anything isn't good. Have you considered going to a sex shop, getting some toys, doing some role playing, just touching each other, exploring without sex.

By the way, how old are you two?

ChihuahuaMomma · Jul 11, 2008, 12:03 AM

Has she said, "I do not like sex"? Most people that I have heard think that their partner doesn't sex is because they are not taking that partner's wants, needs, and desires into consideration so sex becomes more of a chore than a bonding experience.

number1tank · Jul 11, 2008, 12:05 AM

Done the shops... got the electronics... only when she's drunk... seems like there's a problem other than me wondering if she will bring a girl home...

number1tank · Jul 11, 2008, 12:06 AM

Oh no... she indicated she doesn't like sex... we have dated / been married for 10 years

ChihuahuaMomma · Jul 11, 2008, 12:09 AM

Perhaps she doesn't KNOW how to like sex. Try pampering her, and see how that works. Set her up with her favorite romantic flick, rub her feet, and cuddle with her. $20 says she'll start to feel a little frisky!

number1tank · Jul 11, 2008, 12:20 AM

Thanks for the advise... I'll give her a shot

ChihuahuaMomma · Jul 11, 2008, 12:26 AM

You are welcome.

Synnen · Jul 11, 2008, 05:00 AM

Have you asked her WHY she doesn't like sex? That could be a BIG piece of the puzzle here.

Oh... and if she's not liking sex with just the two of you--bringing someone ELSE into the picture isn't going to do anything but destroy your marriage.

It sounds to me like you need to communicate more about your sex life before taking your sex life to a different level. Seriously--if you can't talk about sex with each other, openly and honestly, you aren't going to HAVE good sex with each other. If you have a lot of difficulties discussing it, perhaps a third party (a marriage counselor or sex therapist) could be brought in to help the conversation move along the way it is supposed to.

N0help4u · Jul 11, 2008, 05:27 AM

I agree that if she doesn't like sex then asking her to do something like that can very likely totally destroy it all for you. What if she doesn't like sex because sub conscientiously she was brought up believing it was something wrong. Like Synn said you have to talk to her to see what would make it better for her.
I know that I do not like it all that great because I see it as a guy in control and not giving.
Like ChihuahuaMomma said you need to find out 'how' to please her so she gets to the place where she DOES enjoy it.
Your asking her to be with another girl could make her feel like she has less of a part in your intimacy and only make things worse.