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kandy · Mar 26, 2006, 11:05 PM

Ok This Is Kandy, And I Really Like This Guy. He Is 20 ,and I Told You All About My Ex Who Hit Me ,and We Have Been Over For 1.5years, And I Need To Know If I Should Go For It.ok Well My Brother His This Friend That Is Always Over At My Grandmothers House,and The Other Night We Were Talking, And Everyone Was Gone, And Then We Were Walking Into The Living Room, And We Were Playing Around, And He Kissed Me And Then I Kissed Him. But Is It Too Soon? I Mean I Do Like This Guy A lot, But I Don't Want To Mess Up His Friendship With My Brother.I Mean My Brother Said That It Was Ok And All, But It Is Steel Hard Because I Know That If He Hurts Me My Brother Will Get Mad At Him. I Mean What Should I Do?he Likes Me A lot To But Some One Help Me Please. I Don't Know What To Do.

kp2171 · Mar 26, 2006, 11:21 PM

Figure out why you are so desperate for a relationship.

Not saying this guy isn't OK or not.

But you just seen to want to make your life about being hooked up with a guy.

How in the world can you be thinking clearly so soon after all the crap in your other posts?

Be by yourself for a bit and figure out what's going to make you happy. If all you aspire to is to be with somebody, well that's a pretty low standard for living your life.

Most people are happier when they are not alone. But sometimes it is good to be alone for a bit to figure out what's important. If you're so desperate that you have to run to another guy just like that, well... then chances are you are going to make the same mistakes over and over.

kandy · Mar 26, 2006, 11:26 PM

Ok I'v Been Around This Guy For 6 Years And He Has Alwas Helped Me When Me Annd Justin Split Up And **** I Have Been By Myself For 1.5 Years And Waited On One Guy That Hole Time

kp2171 · Mar 26, 2006, 11:46 PM

I don't agree that the pattern of loving a guy who slept around and then hit you is a healthy place to be. Most of the people on the boards agreed that your situation was messed. And you JUST made the move to get away from that noise, so I don't think you've been your own person - at least in the sense of knowing what is good and meaningful in a relationship.

Like I said. This guy might be everything. He might be great. Fine.

What do you want to bet that almost every post after mine is going to say you shouldn't rush into another relationship so soon after an abusive one?

fredg · Mar 27, 2006, 05:46 AM

Hi,
"go for it"??
I don't understand about that quote from what you are asking. Do you mean "go for it", as in being friends? Being a girlfriend?
Why do you want a boyfriend? Is it something that all your friends are doing?
Sure, I would talk with this 20 yr old boy, be friends with him, if he wants to be friends with you.
But, again, do you HAVE to have a boyfriend?
Why not just be friends with him. If he asks you to a movie or something, then go out on a date with him. But, don't expect him to not see any other girls, and you really shouldn't be seeing only him either.
I do wish you the best, and why not just try calming down some. Enjoy life, without trying to find a boyfriend so hard.

s_cianci · Mar 27, 2006, 07:35 PM

It's been 1.5 years. That sounds like enough time. If you really like this guy then there's no reason you can't go for it. Actually it's good that your brother cares enough for you that he'd get mad at someone if they hurt you. The fact that this guy's a friend of your brother's shouldn't make any difference. Don't let that affect any relationship you may develop with this guy.

kandy · Mar 27, 2006, 10:59 PM

Thank you s_cianci you helped me make the right choice in it all

talaniman · Mar 28, 2006, 01:26 PM

You worry me a lot for one after a guy hits you and hearing about your twin and the rest of the family drama and now you want a boyfriend. Did you ever talk to a professional? I think you should slow down and find out who you are before you get into this relationship thing again. I mean what could your hurry be?:cool: :eek: