[nova225]

My cousin and I went out on the 4th, and I met this guy (he was our waiter). He was very nice and he kept us entertained the entire night. He talked to us the entire time we were there because it was very slow that night. Before we left he put his number in my phone, and walked away. He wanted my cousin and I to stay pass closing time, but we left anyway. I really don't called guys----they call me----but he gave me his number so I called him. I called the next day and we had a great conversation (I think). He kept saying "wait until I see you again", but we haven't made plans yet. Before we got off the phone he said that he would call me today, but he hasn't called me yet. I really don't know if he's interested in me, but I refuse to call him. If he is interested in me I will never know because I will never dial his number until he calls me back. I don't want to seem pushy or putting too much pressure on him but I really liked him (I haven’t felt this way in a while).

Am I being too old fashion?? Yes he did make the first move by giving me his number, and I made the second by calling him---the third move is up to him---he said he would call me……RIGHT??

[ChihuahuaMomma]

The day is not yet over, so give him the benefit of the doubt.

This really has nothing to do with being old fashioned, it's more to do with a good balance. Like you said, he gave you his number, you called, now it's his turn. The ball is in his court. If he doesn't decide to shoot, then game over.

[plonak]

Did he call?

[JBeaucaire]

If you refuse, then what can we do for you? Either you like someone enough NOT to play games with them (like "Oh, Be Sure to Follow The Rules" game or the "Ball's in Whose Court?" game... ), either you like them enough to NOT play games, or you don't. You can refuse all you want. Just make sure the "rules" you elevate over sincere goals and interaction are worth what you may lose by enforcing them.

Life is way too dramatic already without adding rules like those... but whatever.

[nova225]

No he didn't call, and he hasn't been on myspace either. Why would he act like that if he gave me his number, and he added me to his friends list... WHATEVER I'M OVER IT.

Thanks for the advice that I did get. :)

[plonak]

He lost interest.. but that's OK, doesn't mean that you're not worthy of his time or attention, it means he's not worthy of YOUR time..

Yes, it's a little bit of an ego buster but you can easily move on... dating is rough huh? I always hated the waiting and wondering!

[ChihuahuaMomma]

FORTUNATELY, it won't be too hard to get over someone that you only knew for a day.

[liz28]

It only been a day, you stated he was not on myspace either. You never know, something could have happen.

I have told guys I would call then at --, but did call until a few days. I didn't do it intentionally but sometimes things come up, or it get too late, or it'll slip my mind. Then sometimes days would go by then I'll get scare thinking they forgot about me, but would call anyway.

I not saying to wait around for him but he might call before the week is out or could be waiting for you to call. So then it becomes a cat and mouse game.

[ISneezeFunny]

You know... it COULD be possible that he's had a long day.. No offense, but you've given up after one day... that's kind of sad, don't you think?

I've told girls I'd give them a call the next day, and I got caught up at work, running around, and whatnot, and in the end, couldn't give them a call because I got home way too late.

I wouldn't "give up" on him but at the same time I wouldn't make him an obsession. Go about your own life, and if he calls, great. If not, then move on.

[nova225]

I actually called him today, but he didn't answer the phone. He called me back, but I didn't hear my phone ring. When I called him back he picked up the phone and didn't say anything. Right after I called him I went on myspace, and he was on there too... so I sent him an email, but it's cool. I'm not going to cry over spilled milk... can't say I didn't try.

Girls always try harder then guys.

[ISneezeFunny]

1. Girls don't always try harder than guys. Tell that to the 1000+ guys on the relationship forum.

2. it's fine that you called, but I suggest you keep it relatively under control.

[nova225]

I just went back on myspace, and he said that he didn't know it was me because he didn't store my number in his phone. He said he was going to call me later tonight, but why should I believe him. He did say he was going go call me SUNDAY and he didn't.

I take what I say back ISneezeFUNNY... maybe I just try harder with the guys I really like.

[ISneezeFunny]

Nova, I'm not sure why you're so obsessed with this guy after talking to him only a few times. Just relax. Take it easy. Do your own thing.

[nova225]

Okay... okay... I will... I will.

Thanks :)

[nova225]

You might have to read my last post to understand.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...in-234467.html

Last night we ended up at the same restaurant from last week... my cousin forced and convince me to go. When we got there the guy that never called me back was the first person I saw. When he walked passed me he said hey, but he also said HMMM (what does that mean?? ) He was our waiter again, and he was acting really weird around us. Later on that night he came up to me an asked me why did I stop calling him?? I told him what he did (he picked up the phone and didn’t saying anything), and he said he thought it was some other girl he didn't want to talk to. All that night he was flirting with me, but I kept my guard up. Prime example... he asked me if I was going to buy him something off the menu, and I asked him what did he want and he said me. What the heck is going on with this guy... is he telling the truth??

Just letting you guys know about my situation.

[N0help4u]

Tell him, "I am not up for guessing games. You have my number if you are interested YOU can call me".

[nova225]

LOL... I told him about that last night and he said that he wasn't playing games. Maybe he wants me to call him, but I lost---deleted--- his number. I gave him mine if he's still interested.

[plonak]

Yeah, this guy seems immature... let him call you and if he doesn't don't worry about it.. this guy really does seem like he's playing games.. he could like the chase.. just move on and if he calls, then he calls.. if not then better for you because you didn't have to waste your time dating an idiot

[086]

I think you should just let him chase you and make his intentions clear, if he is interested he will contact you somehow.. sounds like you are already fed up with him. Keep your options open, and meet new people.