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CrazyTrain88 · Jul 2, 2008, 02:18 PM

I recently got back in touch (via MySpace) with an old classmate; when her and I were in school, I was totally in love with her, but I was too shy to pursue it, and I've always kicked myself for not having took the chance with her. We seem to be getting along fine through our messages online; I've really learned a lot about her passions in life, and her goals, and everything, and I'm finding myself falling for her all over again. I really want to ask her out and, ideally, pursue a relationship with her, but I'm holding myself back, because, well... as the topic title indicates, she's taller than me.

Now, don't get me wrong. The height thing wouldn't bother me; I've been short all my life, compared to my peers (including most girls), and I've pretty much accepted the idea of dating a girl that's taller than I am. But I was looking at some of her old pics on her MySpace page, and there were a few that included a couple of her ex-boyfriends, and they were both taller than her. This leads me to believe she only dates taller guys.

My concern is that, when her and I do meet up, that my height will instantly kill my "attraction level", in her eyes. Before you say it, I've already heard the "There's plenty of fish..." and "If a girl doesn't like you because of your height, she's not worth it" speeches many many times. I don't know, I just really think this girl and I would be really good together, and even though no one wants to get rejected, it'd be so much worse if I get turned down for (what I think is) a silly, trivial reason like that. So, I don't know what I should do... :/

ISneezeFunny · Jul 2, 2008, 02:23 PM

Only one way to find out, right?

I'm 5'8"...which isn't that short (it's average, ok?!?!) but I also have a lot of female friends that are 5'10" that I've been attracted to. Some girls actually don't mind... while other girls do. If she's a smart girl, meaning, she's not too shallow and whatnot, and actually has a good time with you, I doubt the height will set you two back too much.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 2, 2008, 02:34 PM

Ok, don't and think about what if, 30 years from now. You have not grown out of your high school fears, you can worry "what if" all day and never do anything

plonak · Jul 2, 2008, 02:47 PM

Really.. what can you do here about this? Nothing.. you can't take a magic potion that will make you taller.. you can't make her shorter.. only thing to do is meet up with her and if it bothers her then it does, if not then great..

I have a girl friend who is 5'10 and she doesn't date anyone shorter than her.. but that's her preference..

If she decides not to date you then obviously it's not meant to be and you will find the right person for you.. just because you love someone doesn't mean you HAVE to be with them

CrazyTrain88 · Jul 2, 2008, 03:47 PM

Hah, I know there's nothing I can do about my height, I guess I was just wondering two things:

1) Is it worth a shot, considering it's highly likely my height will automatically mean rejection?

2) If I should give it a go, how can I downplay my height? How can I show her it doesn't really mean anything in the grand scheme of things?

ylaira · Jul 2, 2008, 04:20 PM

Josephine is taller than Napoleon Bonaparte, so as Nicole Kidman to Tom Cruise. Rick Astley isn't tall... No need to explain why these men stood up even if they're not gifted w/ height so... just find shoes that has elevated soles. I found some shoes made for short men, you know, they put something on the heel part before wearing, find clothes that emphasize your best features be it eyes, hair, etc Also if the height is on the spotlight just make a joke about it. Funny man is gold.Danny de Vito seems fine and Heard about Mini Me ( and his scandal)? U can do better man!

ISneezeFunny · Jul 2, 2008, 04:35 PM

1. Anything's worth a shot. What's there to lose?

2. downplay your height? Heh. Nothing. Just be confident. Most of all, don't show that you're worried about your height. Just be comfortable in your own skin.

help555 · Jan 13, 2009, 08:48 PM

I had the same prob.ask her out tack a risk u never no she might feel the same.shackspear/its better to love and lost than to not have loved at all

iSmartMan · Feb 24, 2009, 03:16 PM

It's not a big deal. If she rejects you automatically you fiqure out pretty fast that she is pretty shallow. If it bothers her then it's probably not meant to be then. But hey take a shot at it, she probably won't reject you.

earl237 · Feb 26, 2009, 06:31 PM

I'm only 5'7 and have dated women close to 6 feet. Some don't like shorter guys but many don't mind. Having a great sense of humor helps. When I was walking outside with my tall girlfriends and a plane flew by, I would go "boss, de plane" like tattoo from Fantasy Island and they thought it was hilarious.

ylaira · Feb 26, 2009, 06:39 PM

Dating a taller girl is not a mortal sin. It is just what people doesn't used to so don't take it hard.

Focus on what u can brag!!

Ren6 · Feb 27, 2009, 06:49 AM

I'm curious about something... if she was an old class mate of yours, doesn't she remember who you are? Maybe you're worrying over nothing! I'm 5' 8" and I've dated guys who were shorter than me. I find personalities attractive, not height. I hope things go well for you!

slapshot_oi · Feb 27, 2009, 10:37 AM

I once had a girl tell me, and she was real cute, "if you were taller I'd be all over you". I'll never forgive for that. I'm 5'-7"

I wouldn't say rejecting someone on looks or height alone is shallow. We all have a type that just turns us into an animal, and if you don't meet those standards, oh well. And I couldn't date a woman taller than me, I'd feel unable to protect her, if anything she'd protect me.

I guess it is worth a shot, but you have to clear your mind of the fact you're shorter than her.