[Roudy]

My 11 year old son has come home and confessed that he is stumbling upon information with his dad doing crystal meth. He is afraid his dad is going to die. I can't have my son around this environment but how do I prove this so my son doesn't have to spend every other weekend with a druggy?

[Nestorian]

You may want to talk to social services, and see what they have to say. That is your only sure way, look them up in your government section of your phone book.

Peace be with you.

[Roudy]

My 11 year old son has come home to me telling me that he thinks his dad is doing Crystal Meth- how do I prove this? How do I get my son away from him? Please help! Anyone!

[J_9]

Get an attorney, demand a drug test. Ask your son why he believes this. Does it corrolate with Meth?

[J_9]

I wouldn't go to social services, as they may take the child away from the mother and put him in protection. The mother has to get an attorney and have a drug test done.

[Nestorian]

Wow, hold your horses, I know you love your son, but getting wond up about it won't help, in fact it may hinder your efforts. Try to calm down, for your own sake, and for your child's. Just talk to Social services, if you can convince them to go in and take a look around, then your son won't be going there if he is doing drugs.

“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” - Yoda This state meant is true if you ignore the whole story it goes to. THe dark side is our own personal hell, where nothing will ever sufice. Don't let your anger control you, but don't ignore it ether.

Peace be with you.

[J_9]

Contacting social services can wind up having the child taken away from her.

[Nestorian]

But if the child lives with the mother, and only visits the father on weekends, wouldn't they just say to keep him at her place? I couldn't see them being that foolish to take the child from the mother if she isn't doing drugs, or anything abusive. It just wouldn't make sense to wast time or money on that.

But maybe you are right I'm not sure.

Peace be with you.

[J_9]

But if the child lives with the mother, and only visits the father on weekends, wouldnt they jsut say to keep him at her place??

Not necessarily. Never be too open with Social Services. They may believe that she is a harm to her child by letting him go to the father. It's best to hire a family attorney, if she doesn't have one, and having a court ordered drug test done.

[Roudy]

Thank you for your help. We do have an attorney but the last time we asked about having a drug test, he claimed we had to have a reason besides hearsay. We are going through juvenile court because the ex and I were never married. I am at a loss. So worried about my child and his safety and his heartache.

[Roudy]

My son witnessed his dad googling crystal meth ingredients online. He also said that one time he was at his dad's, his dad's friends came over and he walked in on them snorting powder up their nose. His dad screamed at him to leave the room. He now claims these same friends are coming around and he is scared that his dad is going to die. I had heard rumors of this before but couldn't prove anything. Now that I know he is doing this while my son is in his care, I am even more scared!

[N0help4u]

You can go to family court where you got your custody orders and ask for a day in court over this.

[ScottGem]

I've merged the two threads. Please do not open multiple threads with the same issue.

[oOLadyOo]

Definitely don't go to social services they will try to take your son from you as well. If you can get a friend of the dad's to admit he's doing drugs, if you do a court ordered drug test it must be the same day cause meth don't stay in the body's system to long and he could clean up before for the test, if there are court ordered visitations, then you can and may want them to get revised to supervised visitations, so your son won't be exposed to that type of activity.

[startover22]

Roudy, have you tried talking to the father? What signs have you seen? What does your gut say? Sometimes when we here things, we start to believe them whole heartedly. I think the best thing here would do as J_9 advised... get your attorney to work a little harder and tell him you are truly worried. What exactly has your son told you? How in the heck would he know about Crystal Meth? That really worries me that he would know what the signs are in the first place.
EDIT::::::::
I apologize, I just saw all of this info...

[startover22]

I say it is high time for that drug test. If your son SAW him snorting coke and mixing drugs then that should be enough to get a court ordered drug test. Make as many attempts as you need to to keep this guy away from your son. Had your son asked his father about what he was doing? Or did he keep real quiet? Do they have a close bond or is it just "having" to see him on weekends? The reason I ask, I suppose you son could contest to what he had seen, but that could be damaging as well. So lets get you to the courts and see what you can do first.

[liz28]

After your son informed you about this matter, did he continue to go to his father house? Just ask because it could be brought up. I believe no matter what you do social services can be brought into the picture.