Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    Dydhlp's Avatar
    Dydhlp Posts: 2, Reputation: 2
    New Member
     
    #1

    Jun 21, 2008, 04:55 PM
    What to do if she says she wants to see your porn?
    Last girl this happened with, she was all excited about it, and I started slow, showed her just various photos of this girl posing in various stages of nudity - she said "BORING!"

    So I moved onto ones of actual sex. I guess the important thing here is that it was ameteur footage downloaded from sites and p2p networks. But just plain and simple sex, nothing we wouldn't have done ourselves.

    She made comments along the way, like "Oh hello!" and "next" and then finally said "Okay, that was kind of wierd!" and left the room.

    I get the feeling from similar experiences that girls are expecting to see something fairly specific when they want to see porn. Probably the usuall old (boring) professional stuff, where people don't even look like they're enjoying themselves :confused: maybe because they can distance themselves from that as they watch it.

    I have another girl I'm in a relationship asking me the same thing now. She's specifically saying "I want to see what turns you on" and "It's obviously a part of your life, I want to know what it's like".

    My question is, should I formulate a "safe" collection of professional, boring porn to show her, or risk it again and show her what actually does turn me on - people enjoying sex!

    Just looking for opinions really, I know no one can answer this. :rolleyes:
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
     
    #2

    Jun 21, 2008, 05:02 PM
    Give it to 'em straight with what turns you on!
    Fr_Chuck's Avatar
    Fr_Chuck Posts: 81,301, Reputation: 7692
    Expert
     
    #3

    Jun 21, 2008, 07:00 PM
    If you are ashamed to show it to her, then perhaps you should not be watching it yourself??
    Chery's Avatar
    Chery Posts: 3,666, Reputation: 698
    Gone, But Not Forgotten
     
    #4

    Jun 21, 2008, 09:12 PM
    We all know that there is a difference between professional and self-made cheap p2p films - whether porn or not.

    I also think it depends on how long you've known each other and how much communication there is between the two in regards to fantasies and taste.

    Personally, watching a porn that was probably filmed without consent from one partner (via webcam or handy) is exploiting and disrespectful, so if you show those types... it would positively repulse me and turn me off.

    I think it would be best to talk with each other and not mention your interest in this subject too early in a new relationship.

    How do you approach the subject with your girlfriends? Just another question... what age-group are we talking about?. if you don't mind my asking.


Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions

 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search


Check out some similar questions!

Is porn bad? [ 7 Answers ]

My boyfriend looks at porn, and I'm just wondering if this is OK. He says he does it because he feels like it, but I still don't think it's a good idea. What should I tell him?:(

Is it more than porn? [ 21 Answers ]

Okay... So, a while back, I asked a question about porn and my boyfriend... and I was starting to get over the fact that he watches it until yesterday I found on his computer xpeeps.com, which I know is a site for people to post their own pictures and such. And one of the pages he had visited was...

8 yr old looking at porn [ 4 Answers ]

My 8 year old girl has been looking at porn websites behind my back, when I confronted her she said that she wanted to look at it so she didn't do what they were doing. She promised not to look at it again but she did just yesterday

Why would he lie about Porn? [ 21 Answers ]

Today I was cleaning the house and I decided to clean under the couch because it hadn't been done in a while. When I scooted the couch forward there was a dvd disk sitting there, and I picked it up It was girls gone wild. Then my husbands blade trinity was there so I opened it up and found two more...


View more questions Search