[Jesse305]

I lost my virginity almost a year ago and I've been sexually active every month. The problem is that when ever I'm having sex I can never reach an orgasm :( . I've had an orgasm before through masturbation and oral sex but never through intercourse. How can I fix this?

[Synnen]

You might not be able to.

Intercourse doesn't stimulate the same areas as masturbation and oral sex.

You might try "woman on top" positions and self-stimulation to push you over the edge, though.

[Choux]

I don't know how your partner is, it might be that you need a more skilled partner in the intricacies of penis thrusting... in the man atop, a man can make circular movements that include stimulating your clitoris with his mons pubis in between well timed thrusts... etc.Maybe one of the guys here can explain better and you can tell your boyfriend?

You in the meantime may want to manipulate your nipples to increase your passion during this learning phase?

Also, try the female atop, stick with it till you get a good feel for it; have him pinch your nipples, etc. while you are getting yourself pleasure.

Just a note, there is no substitute for real passion for your partner.

[kp2171]

everybody above is right... there is no one perfect "recipe" for great sex. One partner I had loved a hard thrashing at the cl!toris. Got her off every flippin time. I was King of the Bedroom. The next partner HATED it (as would most). It was crushing.

don't be frustrated. You know you can achieve orgasm with oral or self stim. That's good news. Some women cannot do this at all.

as synn and choux mentioned, woman on top can apply pressure differently than with him on top. My partner does not reach orgasm in missionary position (with me on top)... doesn't matter if I try to stim to the sides of the labia where the "legs" of the clitoral roots run and where she is especially sensitive to oral stim... doesn't matter if I try to hit the g spot using a different angle and finger stim her cl!toris. It just doesn't quite work for her and never has. Feels good, but she doesn't get there.

but woman on top... this can work. Also other positions where neither partner is "dominant" can work... point is, don't feel "broken"... it can take time to find what works best for you.

one lover never ever got off orally, but always did with g spot stim with intercourse or manual. Another lover always got off with soft oral, sometimes with intercourse, never with my manually stimulating her. And then another liked hard oral, hard manual, hard intercourse and could almost get off when the wind blew hard enough.

don't be afraid to self stimulate while he is in you. Its sexy as sin. It might seem awkward the first time you do it to him and to you... so get over it. If my partner reaches down to self stim in a position that isn't quite doing all she needs I think "fantastic. shes in the zone and craving an orgasm right now"... I never, ever think "what am i doing wrong"... shed tell me, believe me. =)

but don't neglect the mental side... if you aren't closing your eyes and rolling them back as you completely lose yourself in the moment, you might be getting in your own way mentally... and your mind is the most important errogenous zone.

not saying you don't need to address other areas... but wanting sex and craving an orgasm is not the same as releasing yourself to the moment.