[drPrimetime]

Did I do the right thing?
I was in a relationship with this girl for 4yrs. And I knew that she was seeing someone else near the end. She told me before hand that she moved on but didn't really tell me that she was in a relationship until I found through her friendslist on Facebook. I had to swollow that then gave it time to comprehend that she did in fact move on without me knowing or else I wouldn't of came down and had sex with her. She even desired more kinky aspects to the bedroom affair. I still had feelings for her although they were fading because of me finding out. I then did something that I should have let it take its own coarse but I took action with the advisement of my bro. He told me to send this guy a message and tell him to "watch out for her". I did exactly that then he just retaliated and told me to stay away from his business. His business is messy and I should have continued running the cheat until he found out it seems. I admit it was a retaliation that could either backfire or favor her new relationship but without really having more curiosity then concern, what do you think would happen to her cheating ways and her clearly being more phyically attracted to me by telling me that guy. Did I betray her even though she did hide this from me? And will she ever call me back even though I moved on.

[NorthernNiceGuy]

I think you should have just let sleeping dogs lie. Let this new guy deal with her now, she's his problem. Like you said you did it out of retaliation, not to warn this guy of your ex's ways. You were hoping this would get a reaction out of this guy that would negatively affect your ex's relationship with him. You're pissed, and rightfully so, that kind of betrayal hurts like no other. I think you should just stay out of it though from now on. Don't talk to him or her, this whole situation is not worth your time or emotions.

[JBeaucaire]

I guess I don't understand the part where you want SO much to salvage this relationship. I mean, she's a cheater, an active one. Even if she stops, that's who she is for you now. Always will be.

4 years is overkill, but since you didn't get married, there must be GOOD reason, and now you know what it is... you two aren't committed to one another that way at all. It takes two! Not three! Not one! Two!

This is so over, who gives a rip who or what she does next? This guy is irrelevant. Contacting him in ANY WAY is a complete waste energy.

[talaniman]

will she ever call me back even though I moved on.

The better questions is what are you going to do with the facts you have??

HINT:

It involves leaving her alone, and stay out of his, or her, business, and getting your own.

Another hint:

Get a life without her, and leave the what ifs why's, and need for revenge or retaliations alone.

Final HINT:

Disappear from her life, Forever.