[confused1145]

My ex suffers from manic depression and he cuts himself. We are expecting a baby soon. We had a really good and happy relationship. Our relationship is always back and forth. One day he wants to be with me and is sure of it, but then he will turn around a few days later and change his mind. I recently told him that I want to continue to be 'just friends' and I need someone in my life who won't constantly be changing his mind about our relationship. I said this nicely to him, but he still cut himself pretty bad. He told me that his reason for this was because his feelings for me was stronger than I thought and that he only breaks up with me because he's afraid of hurting me. I ended up getting him calmed down before leaving him alone. The next day I showed up at his house and he was really down. He tried once again to overdose and cut himself, but I refused to leave him alone. I love him so much, but I don't know how to deal with him doing this. I can't walk away from him at this point because I know he needs me, but itt really hurts to see him this way. Being around him also makes it hard for me to get over the strong feelings that I have for him. Should I just give him some time instead of giving up on our relationship?

[N0help4u]

Most cutters say they cut because they feel they need to punish themselves
Many say they do it because it eases tension.
Even though he can not be consistent in telling you how he feels he needs you to be consistent in your decisions.

There are books on helping people understand and overcome why they cut themselves.
Amazon.com: Inside a Cutter's Mind: Understanding And Helping Those Who Self-Injure: Jerusha Clark, Earl R. Henslin: Books

Hope this helps some.

[almostgrownup]

This answer may not be what you want you to hear. You need to ask yourself how much of this can you take? And only you can answer that. You can't just drop him like a hot rock, but at some point he's got to get fixed up or you going to have cut him loose for yours and the baby's sake. If he's that bad off, he needs to see someone who's job it is to fix him. Your job is to take care of yourself so you can take care of that baby. How do you go about that? You make him check into somewhere or he's going to have to live without you. That leaves the decision up to him. Then someone can teach him how to help himself. If he continues to cut himself after he's been taught how NOT to do it. Then he wants that more than he wants you and that baby. Yes it's that simple.