[jeremiah5682003]

OK,
So I have known this girl for about 4 years I am 17 and she is 18. Throughout the time I have known her she has been with some guy that was 2 years younger than me. Well just 12 days ago she broke up with him and was single for a few days. Then she started calling me and wanting me to hang out and I have always found her attractive. So much to the point that I strongly believe I may be in love, so I started hanging out with her. Then like 5 days later we started getting close (like we would be making out and holding each other constantly). This went on for 3 days and then on the fourth some other guy she had only met once came along then all of a sudden without a word she was going farther and farther away to the point that she won't even let me lay next to her anymore. The only thing that is really different between me and him is that he is better looking than me.for the past days after, all I have been able to do is feel depressed and hope for her to come back to me or feel so angry at the guy that I want to just knock his head off and I am not a violent guy. I don't know what to do but feel like I did something wrong.

Please help,
A guy in desperate need

[JBeaucaire]

she won't even let me lay next to her anymore

There's your mistake. Regardless of how long you've known her overall, you are only DAYS into your "dating" exploits with her. There should be no "laying together."

I'm not preaching morality, I'm warning you about the way relationships actually work. If you jump right into sexual playing around, your relationship is a sport. It's a fling. Either you or her are social bouncers, and will soon bounce away.

If SHE'S a social bouncer and doesn't even know it, there's little you can do but protect yourself.

Anyway, the "laying together" stuff should come months and months into the dating, LOOOONG after you've gotten to know a person well enough to know that it is safe to act that way. Look, you knew this girl for years, and after only days (including unnecessary laying together) she's bouncing on... didn't see that coming, did you?

That means you don't know her at all and should ignore your past with her. She's a stranger you need to get to know.

If she were a stranger, and she acted this way, wouldn't you move on? I bet you would. Respect and honor yourself enough to treat her fairly. Let her actions be considered honest examples of who she is, let her be that way, and move on if social bouncing isn't your thing.

[starcrush]

She is using you for company .She is going to dump you as soon as someone else comes along.This happen to me Im still depressed.

[liz28]

Your not in a relationship and being mad at the other guy is wrong, if she wanted to be with you then she would. I would stop hanging around her because she don't feel the same way about you. Your was only having fun and nothing more. You shouldn't be depress because there's mor girls out there, so don't do everything stupid that could get you in trouble.Things like this happens in life and never love someone who don't love you back, your 17 and have a lot to learn about girls.