[Bigona]

She is so difficult to deal with. She stopped me from visiting my son and cut off evry conversation. The next thing I know, she taken me to court for child support. I am a full time student and an immigrant. I survive on substitute teaching which is inconsistent plus my career aims at becoming a CEO after school. I also aim at becoming a political figure in future. Child support is not the ideal thing for my record. She took my name off the birth certificate and named my child after her grandfather. Should I sign off my right to the child? The court doesn't seem to rationalize with my position.

She is so difficult to deal with. She stopped me from visiting my son and cut off every conversation. The next thing I know, she's taken me to court for child support. I am a full time student and an immigrant. I survive on substitute teaching which is inconsistent plus my career aims at becoming a CEO after school. I also aim at becoming a political figure in future. Child support is not the ideal thing for my record. She took my name off the birth certificate and named my child after her grandfather. Should I sign off my right to the child? The court doesn't seem to rationalize with my position.

[JudyKayTee]

She is so difficult to deal with. She stopped me from visiting my son and cut off every conversation. The next thing I know, she's taken me to court for child support. I am a full time student and an immigrant. I survive on substitute teaching which is inconsistent plus my career aims at becoming a CEO after school. I also aim at becoming a political figure in future. Child support is not the ideal thing for my record. She took my name off the birth certificate and named my child after her grandfather. Should I sign off my right to the child? The court doesn't seem to rationalize with my position.

If you read through other threads you will find out you cannot just "sign off" and stop paying child support. Is there Court-accepted proof that you are the father?

As far as employment is concerned I don't think most Fortune 500's care if you once owed child support; if you follow politics you know what can happen if someone looks into your past.

Unfortunately your child still has to eat despite your being a student, supporting yourself with a part-time job, and the best you can do is provide whatever financial information the Court wants and cross your fingers. Support in many States is now by Statute - a certain percentage.

[Bigona]

If you read through other threads you will find out you cannot just "sign off" and stop paying child support. Is there Court-accepted proof that you are the father?

As far as employment is concerned I don't think most Fortune 500's care if you once owed child support; if you follow politics you know what can happen if someone looks into your past.

Unfortunately your child still has to eat despite your being a student, supporting yourself with a part-time job, and the best you can do is provide whatever financial information the Court wants and cross your fingers. Support in many States is now by Statute - a certain percentage.

JudyKay, Thanks for the response you provided. Is there anyway I can support my child without having this record tied to my social security?

[JudyKayTee]

JudyKay, Thanks for the response you provided. is there anyway I can support my child without having this record tied to my social security?

Unfortunately - nope. Your SS number goes on file. Will someone know where to look? Unless there's a problem those papers are filed in that particular Court and someone would really have to search them out - it's not like a nationwide registry.

Paying child support is nothing to be ashamed of - I would be MORE concerned if you are ordered to pay and don't. I don't know - if you are interested in politics - that having a child and supporting that child reflects badly on you in any way, I really don't.

[stinawords]

Ok first you can't juse sign away your rights. Second I had mega loans and a job for spending money when I was in college your spending money has to be used on what your kid because you made one. Also I hate to break it to you but I don't care where you go to school or what degree you have you won't be starting at a CEO unless you start your own company so don't worry about your credibility just worry about getting that first job.

[Fr_Chuck]

First paying child support is not a bad thing, it does not show up on your credit report, and I would say in the US most men pay child support at some point in their life than do not

Paying child support will not stop you from being a CEO, or being in politics, actually in the political circle you are in good company.

Now you have a child, and first if you were on the birth certificate the mother can not just take you off, unless she proved you were not the father. So perhaps she never officially put you on it.

And in the US, you take her to court and get set visiitation days, and timies you see the child, if she tries to stop you, you take her back to court.

What will go against you is "NOT" paying the child support, you can lose your drivers license, even end up in jail if you don't pay the child support.

And no signing over your rights, does not stop the child support, that is a obligation, not a right.

What you need to do, go to court and get your right to visit, get the state to set the proper child support required though the state, based on your income.

[Bigona]

Ok first you can't juse sign away your rights. Second I had mega loans and a job for spending money when I was in college your spending money has to be used on what your kid because you made one. Also I hate to break it to you but I don't care where you go to school or what degree you have you won't be starting out at a CEO unless you start your own company so don't worry about your credibility just worry about getting that first job.

I think I meant I have hopes to becoming a CEO one day. It doesn't mean anytime soon. Get me right.

[stinawords]

Just wanted to make sure you weren't setting yourself up for a big disappointment. As for the support, the judge sets the support according to what you make. But before that can happen you have to be the legal father so if you weren't on the birth cirtificat the judge will first have to order a DNA test. When the support order is made you can also request visitation then she can't just not let you see your son because then she will be in contempt of court.

[Bigona]

Just wanted to make sure you weren't setting yourself up for a big disappointment. As for the support, the judge sets the support according to what you make. But before that can happen you have to be the legal father so if you weren't on the birth cirtificat the judge will first have to order a DNA test. When the support order is made you can also request visitation then she can't just not let you see your son because then she will be in contempt of court.

I felt DNA wasn't necessary. I want to be his father unless the mother says otherwise. I wiaved my right to DNA and accepted paternity. I was giving her all that I had but she didn't seem to appreciate it. She says my support should be consistent but I do not have cocsistent income. I was at the hospital for five days till both mom and baby were discharged. I cut the baby's chord.

[Fr_Chuck]

Ok, I am sorry, guess it is too late now, but always ask for the DNA tests just to be sure. For our own protection, what if in 5 years, you find out someone else is the father, and you lose all vistitation rights after loving the child??

Also keep all reciepts for any money you give them. But get the child support ordered from the court, it is based on what you make. And be sure to keep the proof almost forever

[cdad]

Also depends on what State your in as to if they report it on your credit report or not. It will appear as a judgement against you. If you allow yourself to get into arrears ( usually only a month or 2 ) They can strip your drivers licence, Take away your rights to travel and even throw you in jail if you can't or refuse to pay it.

Good luck