[funcuteguy]

Hi...

We met and she was blown away and told me she liked me very much and she then introduced me to her friends and they liked me too and then we went on a walk on the beach holding hands and later I text her that how special I felt when she was around and would love to kiss her . She said that could be arranged and would come to my house next day .

Later on that day she texted me that she needs time to think and honestly she thinks I ma a great guy but she is not the one for me . She just wants to hangout as friends . She says she does not have the same feelings as I do .

How come at first she was all blown away and liked me and now suddenly she does not . I'm confused .

All this happened in 5 days... I can't believe this .

She keeps texting asking how I am doing ? I told her that I'm good and happy and glad she told me .

But still have feeling for her . U think she is going to come back after sometime?

[treehugger]

Honestly I do not know why she had a change of heart. Maybe she did realize that you are not the person she wants to be with. Maybe she doesn't want to lead you on which would hurt you. Maybe her feelings will change in time, maybe they won't. But if you enjoy her company and it is not too hard to be just her friend you should continue spending time with her.

[JBeaucaire]

It wasn't a change of heart she had, it was a change of gears.

We all like the idea of a whirlwind romance, you seemed all setup for that between the two of you. She just realized, once she was alone, that it wasn't the smartest approach to getting to know someone. And she's right. It's not.

Romantic, sure? Desirable? Heck, yeah! Smart, no, not at all.

You feel confused but you're not. Your feelings are your feelings. They just are. You have to date in the real world, not in your heart.

5 days is nothing. Slowing down after this short a time can't even be considered a failure. Regardless of what happened in 5 days (even if you'd eloped and gotten married), you still don't know diddly about each other.

In spite of what you believe now, experience will eventually reveal that people are not presenting their "real" selves in the first few MONTHS of dating, much less the first couple of days. No, those days are full of sweetness, hope, false politeness, our very BEST behavior.

But its not how we live. You have to date for months for the familiarity to settle in and some bad times to occur. It's who we are to each other during the hard time after we've gotten familiar...THAT'S who you need to meet. And she needs to meet that part of you, too.

So, there's no confusion. There's two very newly met young people and one who's smart enough to say "slow down". So slow down. Relax. Enjoy the process.

Shortcuts are a killer. Take your time.