[Midoovi]

Okay, despite your great advise and my own better judgment, I listened to his words and forgave him. And I almost had sex with him... but I don't know why I couldn't do it, I don't know why I stopped him every single time... Anyway, he cheated again, of course. I kind of blame myself for not having sex with him and building up his sexual frustration, but if he loved me enough, then he would have over came that and waited for me. So, I have to dump him this time, I can't do what I did last time. I'm not looking forward to the void I'm going to have without him and I want to die right now, but I know that in the long run, I'm going to be better off without him. I just want some advise.

[Ash123]

Well done!

1) you didn't sleep with him.

2) you are officially breaking up with him
(actually you are already broken up - he cheated on you. But it's good to make it official.)

3) you are taking time to mentally prepare.

You sound like a cool girl.

As for the void. I have learned that it is filled the moment we let go.
So try each day to focus 100% on something else - if only for a little while (movies, school, sports, friends, career, hobby... ) - and each day it will get better!


My only advice is this: when you break up... don't spend a lot of time talking. Keep it simple. He cheated. Just tell him you know what he did and frankly you just have no interest in him at this point anyway... do not cry (til you get home) and don't talk to too many friends (just your best friend and family) and it will all blow over soon.

Stop by this site any time...

[450donn]

Remember this;
Friends first,
Then marriage,
Then sex

And, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.