[Celeste42]

Okay. Your usual "I love my boyfriend but like my guy friend" situation, I know.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now, and boy do I love him. He's always there, he's so sweet, and he's just... Perfect.

But.

Boyfriend and I haven't been spending much time together recently due to other commitments (work, stage shows etc.) and I've re-developed a crush on this guy I liked before I even met my boyfriend. This guy's quite similar to my boyfriend, except he's funnier and cooler. I would NEVER leave boyfriend for guy friend, I can assure you that.

My problem is:
Do I tell my boyfriend?
I feel so guilty keeping this from him, and guy friend completely slips my mind when I'm with him. But every time guy friend even gives me a friendly hug, I feel chemistry which I really feel shouldn't be there.
So, do I tell boyfriend, yes or no?

[JBeaucaire]

Nah, no need to bother your b/f with random feelings you're hashing through. He doesn't need that sort of stress and it may cause him to falsely feel you're being unfaithful in your heart...

People can't control their heart, so don't give him a chance to make that mistake on you. Work it out on your own, and let it go.

[talaniman]

No, because it's a normal feeling to be attracted by others, no harm as long as the lines of decency are not crossed. Besides, what's the b/f going to do, but worry his poor head off. Keep it to yourself, and avoid unnecessary problems.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

I agree with the above posters, they are always so helpful and knowlegable.

Also, have you ever heard the saying, "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, or they'll leave the one they like for the one they love"... It's something like that. Basically, it's not worth telling him.

Think about the pros and cons:

PROS:
You'll have it off your chest.

CONS:
He'll have reason to doubt you, might think you have or would cheat on him, or leave him. And might just leave you.

You feel like crap because now he doesn't trust you.


This crush will probably dissolve soon, but your loving relationship will still be there..