[naivedude]

So my ex girlfriend disregarded my love letter and I came across emails between her and her new "roomate" where she can't wait to f him. And the fantasy is only supported by the fact that she wants to live with someone. He wants her to sit on his face and she will return the favor. Omfg how discusting is it to hear how easy your girlfriend could be. I loved this girl and she totally disrespects anything we could have had. Even if she ever came back what can someone say to that? Discust and dissapointment

[ihatewestseneca]

Don't you wish you hadn't "come across" those emails?

I used to snoop too when my ex first kicked me to the curb, and yeah, I found slutty things too, gave me a reason to be disgusted with her for awhile, and it helped me move on... now you know what kind of girl she is/wants to be... please save yourself the pain and stay away from her emails/facebook/myspace... hang in there buddy.

[nickshehe]

It's sad to see them melt into another person..
We can't control them , they have to go out and make there own mistakes.. But you can choose whether you want to watch or not. I suggest you look away.

[talaniman]

Well she can do whatever she wants, with whomever she wants to so keep ranting, and get it all out. Then move on! Get rid of the emails, and whatever else you have of hers. Then you won't toture yourself over things that are not your business any more.

[JBeaucaire]

Spreading the rep back at you Tal. Great post.

[naivedude]

I'm sorry I didn't explain everything... I know people find new love and new partners after relationships... perhaps I have also. And I see no probem with that at all- its life and she moved on. But there's some complicating factors in this situation. This girl has always only just wanted to live somewhere -thats her only perogative- and so she found a new male roommate that told her he needed a place also. 1 month after our relationship ended. Well we know what his perrogative was/is and now he's banging her. What kind of plan is that for her? To move in with a roommate to a 2 bedroom, that you bang and then go separate ways? She is so interested in finding an apartment, looking through clasified and he's just interested in their next encounter. Why did my (ex) girl have to turn out so easy? I don't mind her having sex after my relationship, I understand that part... it's the fact that she's being played so easily and is so quick to give it up for security of a home and make sure he sticks to the plan, rather than come back to me when she still cares for me. So lame. Its only because I didn't give her a place to live and a ring fast enough. Disgusted I am. She might be coming back to me but I don't know if I can handle the type of person she truly is. Weak- just looking for a place to hang her hat. She not into him, just doing it to ensure he stays around for security. It just further proves that I loved her for her and she loved me for the things I provided

[JBeaucaire]

Sounds like you DO know if you're interested in a girl like that. Sounds to me like you aren't. Not really.

[naivedude]

You're right I don't like fast girls and it justifies why I wanted to take it slow the whole time because she just wanted to marry me - got to marry me - and she moves so fast. I'm just so saddened that the girl I really cared for has to be like this. Why she couldn't love me for me and just needed a relationship. She's got issues and I'm disappointed in her... but I also should have expected this... I would have given her everything - and that's exactly what she wanted. But I moved slower than she needed and now she's telling me she would never ever bang him and that it would never work out. But I flipn know the facts and she says I accuse her of being a whore. She's doing it, lying, and saying its my fault for caling her a name I never said! I can't believe her. It just pisses on any ideas I ever had about her actually caring for me. I was merely a placeholder in the all-important 'husband'

[JBeaucaire]

Dude. Cut it out. Where do even get off equating your needs to someone else's? You're judging her behavior and needs and assuming/postulating she is wrong just because you don't think/believe the same way.

Cut it out. Thinking ill of others is a horrible habit to get into.

And just because she shows her love/affection in a way you find unacceptable doesn't mean SHE was being false. She was being true to her needs. And she may have cared / still cares for you just fine. It's just not enough, and in that you are correct.

Looking down on her is just massaging your own ego needlessly. You are correct to walk away from her because of how she behaves in her pursuit of a mate. She is correct to pursue a mate in the way she best knows how.

The mature man steps back at this point and simply concludes - "we are incompatible." You leave it at that.

[talaniman]

Well said JB, his anger at the realities of life, will cool down as his emotions come under control though, and he can hopefully understand what you have told him. Nothing like a bruised ego to teach one some real life lessons.