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vanillasparkle · May 6, 2008, 06:32 PM

I have been engaged for 1 year now and my fiancée and I have always had a very healthy sexual appetite.The problem is for the past month or two he hasn't been wanting to have sex.Sometimes I will try to do it with him and he says he is to tired.He then lays down,but about 5 min. later he is in the bathroom masturbating.Why do you think he does this... is something wrong with me... does he not enjoy being intimate with me?
PS:I tried talking to him about it and he just blew it off and got mad.
Help!:confused:

ChihuahuaMomma · May 6, 2008, 09:25 PM

There is definitely something wrong. Talk to him whether he gets mad or not. Sit him down and tell him there is something very serious that the two of you need to talk about. We can't tell you what is going on with him. We can only speculate based on information provided from you. And that's one side of the story. Talk to him.

Jlamberto · May 6, 2008, 10:13 PM

Wow that sucks u need to talk talk talk and if it doesn't solve anything leave him he's got the problem not u

liz28 · May 7, 2008, 04:22 AM

This problems needs to be resolve because you walk down the aisle. Did anything else change besides this? There have to be something that is effecting him but don't think that's it your fault and if he get mad when you bring up the subject so what because remember communication is very important, did he stop commuicating with you in other ways?

talaniman · May 7, 2008, 05:55 AM

I'm willing to bet money there are some serious issues that need resolving. Finding out is what must be done before a marriage can take place. Sex is only a symptom of a greater problem. You've been engaged for a year, but how old is the relationship and what are your ages?

kirope · May 7, 2008, 07:08 AM

To be honest a relationship walks with 4 legs like dogs do. One leg is communication, Second leg is Trust, Third leg is Financial and Fourth leg is Sex. If you guys break one of this legs your relationship can't walk, you have to talk to him about it and to be honest that's not even the only problem you guys have you are facing communication problems as well. You may want to consider talking to him and if doesn't work let him go as bad as sound, because if this is like this now imagine after you get married... Good luck with your decision.

emopunk7 · May 7, 2008, 01:27 PM

Maybe he is uncomfortable with his body and is insecure. He may not want to take off his clothes nor be touched... he finds it less uncomfortable masturbating and not worrying if you will be disgusted by him... try passing by and with light tender and quick touches say "wow, you sexy!" or "wow, your arms feels so good, or I love touching your stomach, I love it. See what that does. Then give it 2 days.

ChihuahuaMomma · May 7, 2008, 02:12 PM

MommyLeah--they are plenty of other options... the first that comes to mind is counseling. Do you give up on everything that gives you a problem or do you try and fix the problem?

Kirope--That's a great way to look at things. Touché!

Talaninman--Always hits the nail on the head. Perhaps he is harboring anger about something...

Op--try delving in what could be bothering him, because its something. Look at the rest of the relationship and see what else has changed, and see if that could possibly affect things.

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