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ohsnaptissarah · May 4, 2008, 04:14 PM

My ex and I broke up last year in January. I moved on then I started to fall back in love with him during late June early August of 2007. He told me he was falling back in love with me and was so happy and said I was amazing. Then out of no where, because I hadn't broken up with the guy I was "seeing" which I was about to, he started to date someone else. He cheated on her 7 times with me and I just don't get it. I have since stopped trying to reach out since the last time on march 4. he and her have been going out for 7months today and he has only been faithful for 2. I can tell he still loves me and his best friend told him how I still feel and he brought it up to make sure he wasn't being lied to, who does that if the don't care? Tomorrow is him birthday and I don't know whether to wish him a happy birthday or what. I want him back so bad but I don't know what to do and if to wish him a happy birthday. I just love him so much and miss him :(

rockerchick_682 · May 4, 2008, 04:21 PM

Forget this guy. I've been in this situation. It's either a yes or a no. If he doesn't want you and only you, then find someone who does. Believe me, he's not going to change, get out before it gets worse.

Sad Soul · May 4, 2008, 06:38 PM

Don't wish him a happy birthday. You can do better. I'll tell you why:

No... I don't think you actually love someone who asks you for sex while he is calling another girl his girlfriend. I think you're only in love with what "you believe can happen". You're in love with the potential you two might have... but "potential" is not reality... what you're in love with isn't real. So, focus on the facts.

The facts are that he is with her, and you are his mistress. Don't focus on how great it "would be" and so on, but look at the hard truth. This man is not trustworthy and is actually a bad influence on you. Come on, you don't want to be with a man who encourages you cheating and being a dishonest woman, do you? Nah! No man that loves you would want you to be that kind of a woman anyway...

ohsnaptissarah · May 4, 2008, 06:55 PM

I forgot to include that he and I dated for three years. This isn't some random guy

Sad Soul · May 4, 2008, 06:58 PM

Originally Posted by ohsnaptissarah

i forgot to include that he and i dated for three years. this isnt some random guy

Even worse! Then he definitely should have more respect for you or be a better friend. He might love you, but he does not know how to love you. You deserve an honest love with mutual respect.

I still maintain the same stance on this situation, as in my previous post for you.

Good luck in finding sooo much better than this. You'll get better, if you start making the right choices.

talaniman · May 4, 2008, 07:20 PM

Originally Posted by ohsnaptissarah

i forgot to include that he and i dated for three years. this isnt some random guy

Your right he is not just some guy, he is an ex who wants a booty call. He will cheat on you, his g/f ,and any one else that gives him what he wants. Let him find his own birthday present.