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lost?? · Feb 19, 2006, 06:00 PM

hey guys I got another question. I hooked up with a friend of mine's friend last night. I had friends telling me that she really liked me and that they thought we had a great chance at being together. She just got out of a relationship that she really didn't want to be in anyway. My question is that is it too early too call her on the next day? I don't know if it was just a random hook up or something more (people keep telling me they think its going to lead to something more). How do I find out what her intentions are without just coming out and saying it. My 1 friend keeps telling me 2 call but I don know if its too early, what do you guys think? Thanks

Fr_Chuck · Feb 19, 2006, 06:05 PM

Never to early to call in my opinon, don't be over pushy, but a call after meeting and "hanging" is not out of line.

letmetellu · Feb 19, 2006, 10:43 PM

If you are attracted to a person then always do what you feel like is right to do. If you want to call her do... it would be a shame if she wanted you to call and you didn't... you might spend the rest of your life saying "Only if I had called her" Good Luck

Wildcat21 · Feb 19, 2006, 10:51 PM

BELIEVE ME!! Wait. Wait until Wednesday. Seriously. But do call. One day makes you look desperate. Women love the anticipation more than the act in everything.

ALSO -becarefull here. Who did the breaking? If she broke you maybe OK to proceed.

If she was dump... you could bethe rebound and her looking to hurt someone.

RUBLUE · Feb 19, 2006, 11:42 PM

Yes, for sure wait a day or two before calling her. Don't act like your trying to dog her. If it is meant to happen it will happen. Trust me on this one.

fredg · Feb 20, 2006, 08:01 AM

Hi,
Your friends could, or could not be, right about this girl. The only way you will know is to call her, talk with her, see if you wants to go out with you. What's wrong with calling her the next day?
If you like her, call her. If you are worried or concerned about her thinking you are "desperate", why in the world would she think that? She doesn't know you! She might be very flattered that you think enough of her to call her so soon. I do wish you the best of luck. Remember, you can impress someone much better by listening to them, instead of them listening to you. Talk about what she wants to talk about.

Wildcat21 · Feb 20, 2006, 08:39 AM

Fred - it doesn't work that way anymore. Maybe 40 years ago - not now.

RUBLUE · Feb 20, 2006, 10:16 AM

LOL, HA HA HA. Sorry Fred but he is right. Heck I am 48 and have to agree with the above. If this was Leave it to the Beaver, or Father knows best maybe. It is all about respect but in the 21st centurie. Kids today are very wise in ways that my age group were not when we wre that age.

blueiman · Feb 20, 2006, 10:42 AM

When my relationship was over. The next day I started asking women out that I'm attracted to. I never thought about waiting. Why, if I don't ask she may find another... so, its never to early/late just be yourself. Ask her out and just have fun. Don't get serious to fast. Remember, if you're not sure about something just wait a little while and the answer will come to you. Patients is a good thing. Have fun and good luck!
Do not be to serious!!

RUBLUE · Feb 20, 2006, 11:14 AM

I do not agree. This guy has been set up by mutual friends. If he was just out to nail some girl yes I would agree. But he wants more then that. He needs a edge to show he is very much interested in her but not just trying to score. So I think just chill a day or two and then do his thing.

lost?? · Feb 20, 2006, 12:10 PM

She ended up calling me yesterday. We just talked about school and work and stuff. I really think she was trying to get to know me. Anyway she invited me to go with her and a bunch of her friends when they go away for a weekend next month (haha). When she was getting off the phone she told me to call her anytime I felt like it and kept thanking me for some reason?? It really sounded like she wanted me to call today. I want to but like you guys said I don't want to come on too strong. When do you think is a good time to call?

Wildcat21 · Feb 20, 2006, 01:01 PM

Well, that's outstanding. Why can't every woman just do that? Oh, yeah... it's too LOGICAL!!

I think, wth her - when you feel like. BUT!! Not too often... take it slow my man.

I am happy for you, you might have a keeper.

Wildcat21 · Feb 20, 2006, 01:54 PM

Oh - did you make her laugh??

lost?? · Feb 20, 2006, 02:50 PM

Haha yea I did we made each other laugh and she kept telling me how cute I was then would give me a kiss... it was a little weird cause I'm not used 2 being called cute like every 10 seconds but I have to admit I enjoyed it hahaha:D

RUBLUE · Feb 20, 2006, 03:26 PM

Sounds like you got her. So have fun, but reel her in slow. You stay in control of this relationship. I would call her Wednesday late afternoon. Keep a little mystery there. I promise she will still be there. You are young Bro, what's the hurry. It will make her want you more then you will ever no. It's only the day after tomorrow. Stay cool and enjoy. GOOD LUCK!!

Wildcat21 · Feb 20, 2006, 04:17 PM

You don't want to too 'cute' either... or she'll friend you. You want to be the man. The stud.

lost?? · Feb 21, 2006, 02:40 PM

Yea I know what you mean. You can def tell that we're both interested in each other. Every time we talk we're always asking about eachothers family is and classes and stupid stuff like that. We were talking on the phone again last ntie for like an hour. But she kept saying that cute stuff again. I don't know why but for some reason it bothers me that she says it over and over again. Anyway she's going out with her friends tonight but told me to give her a call if I get bored. If I call her thatll be 3 days in a row, does that look needy? I like this girls and I don't want to mess this up and have her thinking ill do anything she says like my last girlfriend.

Wildcat21 · Feb 21, 2006, 02:57 PM

Yes... and being on the phone for an hour does as well... yee - been there, done that.

lost?? · Feb 21, 2006, 03:07 PM

So then how long do I wait to call her without making her think I lost interest?

RUBLUE · Feb 21, 2006, 03:45 PM

Bro, how many times do I have to tell you. Just give it a rest for 1 day. YOU ALREADY GOT HER! But she sounds like a real touchy, feely, clng on peson to me. If she is and you are into that kind of person great. Again this is just me. But after awhile that constant cling starts to wear me out and turn me off. And your kind of blowing it at the start by not telling her how you FEEL uncomfertable with her telling you how cute you are every two minutes. Dude I don't know how old you are and it does not really matter. I don't think you want to get married right now. So CHILL.. I know a day when I was young was to freeking long for anything. I don't know what youe values are or where your head is at. But since you are such a good looking guy CHILL OUT. Man you got to lot of life ahead of you. Don't make such a DRAMA over some girl you are hot for. Be a man. I do not be mean be rude to her and not meet her needs, just be in control from the start. And Bro with ANY relationship if your not honest at the start the relationship will be doomed that I know for sure. GEEEZZZZ!! How did I ever grow up without the internet ?