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godsbabygirl267 · Apr 30, 2008, 03:32 PM

Ok, I'm 14 and as many of you know, I asked a guy to formal a while ago and he said 'no'. Since then, he has become one of my very good friends who I care about a lot. But, about 6 weeks ago, I started talking to this other guy, Chaz. He's really sweet and he seems different than most of the other guys at my school. What I mean is this, he can hold an intelligible conversation, every other sentence isn't about sex, and I've never caught him staring at my chest when I talk to him, he looks me in the eyes. Any how, about a week ago, both of them started... almost ignoring me. Chaz more than robert, probably because after he broke up with his girlfriend and asked me if I liked him, I said no, because I care much more about him, 'Like' is too pathetic of a word for how I feel. Well, he has a new girl friend now and we don't talk much.
Just imagine... you are Juliet, or for Twilight lovers Bella,
And both paris and romeo (jacob and edward)
Suddenly stop loving/caring about you. What do I do? I love them both much more than I would ever say, but I can't stand it. Last night I woke up at about 2 and got out of bed to fix my alarm, when I was walking back to bed, I fell in the floor crying and I'm not sure why, but I held myself in a ball for about an hour until I was sure I wouldn't crack in two. HELP! Please. :(

Dawn92 · May 1, 2008, 07:18 PM

Why don't you just tell Chaz "I told you I didnt like you, but that's only because I can't really express how much I like you. And I know you have a girlfriend, but I just wanted to tell you how I felt now, before I regreted it anymore.".

godsbabygirl267 · May 2, 2008, 03:47 PM

So you are saying I should tell him how I feel? And what happens when his girlfriend finds out! Ill be toast! So confused

TmichelleO · May 2, 2008, 06:24 PM

Okay first of all TOTALLY A TWILIGHT FAN!! Best books ever written!! Okay anyway lol if you like this guy, your edward, then tell him how you feel girl! In my opinion his girlfriend is just rebound because you hurt his ego and if he is as into you as you described I wouldn't doubt it if he broke up with her for you... thats what I would do because I am impatient but if you don't like that route you can try to gain your friendship back slowly and show him how much you really do care about him and gain his trust back again if he likes you as much as you described he will take you back :)

godsbabygirl267 · May 2, 2008, 08:29 PM

Only one problem, he never gave me away. Its not like we were in a very deep emotional kiss kiss relationship, we were just really good friends and I care for him so very much. And I think he cares too, or else he wouldn't be so... sweet about everrything I say, even if it is directed at his heart and I want to hurt his feelings. He still always never gets mad or walks away, just makes me laugh or want to cry but not intentionally. I don't even know why I care, I already have Robert, and I won't live without him, but I don't think I can give up either of them, however much they may hate each other. WHich of course they do. Total opposites in every aspect except the whole being a male thing. I don't know who to choose, I am a very selfish person, because I just keep hurting them both by not really being there for either of them. AAH! I don't know what to do?
Help,
Nikki

Milgie · May 3, 2008, 01:03 AM

Look hun... who treats you better? at 14 years old.. you are so very very mature. I'm 16.. u need to tink.. who can you see yourself having a longer, stronger, and better relationship with... I think you should tell chaz WHY you said "no" to his "do you like me"... explain that you said no, because "like" isn't the word to describe your immense feelings for him, and I think go with chaz anyhow.. he seems to be more mature.. well.. ery mature for his age.. so.. yeah. Get a good guy hun. Then your set. Although you are only 14, you will probably have 8 boyfriends.. but maybe.. its rare. But he could be your like. High school sweetheart lol. Until like forever.. but hey.. choose the one who you love.. the oen who treats you better, and you can see yourself in 5 yrs with

godsbabygirl267 · May 3, 2008, 05:50 PM

Well, 5 years is quite a long time. But I'm not sure I could see robert anywhere in my future past this summer. And Chaz is so sweet to me. But, the whole girlfriend thing is a problem. I would feel really bad if he broke her heart to date me. Im just too chicken to hurt her. And I think it would hurt him to in the short time of it. Because, I don't think he loves her, trust me, Ive seen the way he looks at her. Its just like I would look at one of my friends or my baby brother. But not how a person looks at the one they really love. I don't want to hurt them. How can I choose? I don't think I can win. Because in the process of getting what I want, I could hurt 4 people. Chaz, Robert, chaz's girlfriend, and me! AAH! Help! Is there a way to not hurt all of them? Id almost be happier to just hurt myself.

TmichelleO · May 4, 2008, 07:54 PM

Just follow your heart and if you really love this guy chaz then you need to be honest with him and with the other guy robert because if you don't its going to eat at you and you will always regret not letting your feelings out and always asking yourself "what if" and that is not something you want to do years from now trust me IT SUCKS!! Tell the boy how you feel... wow you are only 14? You sound much more mature than that... so does this guy chaz is he much older than you?

talaniman · May 5, 2008, 06:26 AM

Maybe its time to make a decision based on reality, and stop pining for someone who is unavailable to you. Its about having fun, and enjoying this experience, not some romance novel. Spilling your feeling to someone, who has someone else already, ain't smart at all. If you can't make a choice, have fun with them all, until you do make up your mind. Your 14 not 40. You have plenty of time, so don't complicate things.

godsbabygirl267 · May 5, 2008, 02:00 PM

Well, to you Tmichello, Chaz is 15 and so is Robert. And yes, I promise I am 14 just turned in April. I guess you are right. But then again, rejection hurts. As many of us know. WHat if he really doesn't care about me at all? Oh, and the whole girlfriend thing. Is that a bad idea? I don't want to give people the idea that I have no respect for other people and their relationships. Stepping on the wrong toes at my school is definitely not a good idea.

TmichelleO · May 14, 2008, 05:08 PM

Girlfriend or not I think you should tell him how you feel... and about rejection we all have experienced it and yes it sucks but if I were you I would ask myself is it (maybe) worth the pain of rejection or would it be worse to always ask what if? To me that seems worse... but I'm definitely the type of person who always puts my feelings out there... but its all up to you and what you feel is best! Good luck! Tell me how it goes!