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    Mariesa Posts: 12, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 28, 2008, 09:01 AM
    How do I break it off
    Since my last post about always being mean to my boyfriend I did a lot of thinking and decided to break up with him. I don't want to continue to hurt his feelings and I can't make myself be nice to him. From the advice I was given from my last post I realized that I obviously have issues that I need to work on before I go any further in this relationship or any other for that matter. I broke up with him on Thursday but we already had plans to go to 2 birthday parties. He asked me if I would still go with him so he wouldn't have to make excuses as to why I wasn't there. I agreed then he asked me to at least spend the weekend with him and on Sunday it would all be over with and he would leave me alone. Needless to say that really didn't work. After the weekend he kept bugging me about staying with him and he made me feel really bad so I said OK we would stay together and work through all of this.

    The problem is that I really don't want to. I want to work through my issues first but he just won't let me. We had a long talk on Friday night and he thinks that I just miss my x. I keep telling him that's not the case and that I need to just be alone to sort things out and he's just not really hearing what I'm saying. How can I get him to understand what I'm saying. I want to break up I don't want this relationship anymore. Please help
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    tishsuz Posts: 8, Reputation: 3
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    Apr 28, 2008, 09:14 AM
    Sounds like he is insensitive and desperate. Never, ever, ever, let a man guilt you into being with him or staying with him. If you stay, eventually you will resent feeling "trapped" (which is what he is trying to do).
    Cut the strings for now. If he understands, great. If he doesn't, he doesn't deserve you anyhow. You know what you need. You are not responsible for his reaction.
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    Apr 28, 2008, 09:33 AM
    Make sure to make it clear that what he is doing is driving your further away. Explain to him one more time what's going on and that he needs to respect your wishes or by not doing so in effect he is saying he doesn't respect you. Here is the deal though, you need to distance yourself, and that may mean not taking his calls etc... If this is what you want, and you need time then he needs to give it to you or you need to cut all ties.
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    Apr 28, 2008, 12:42 PM
    Be honest with him an tell him it just ain't working for u anymore.
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