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isonesexymom27 · Apr 25, 2008, 08:11 AM

I am a very crazy mom very outgoing and funny my point of view of life is there are some things you should try at least once and if you don't like it you don't have to do it again but my daughter is very different she is kind of scared of doing new things example I want her to ride a roller coaster at six flags so she can see how it feels but she don't want to I tell her just ride them all once see which one you like that way you know if you want to ride it again they are not all bad and scary another example , there was a try out for the dance team at school and she dances good but she didn't want to dance in front of people I told her you should to do it by the 3rd time you do it you will be less shy and you won't be embarrassed of dancing in front of people I just want her to be a little bit more outgoing I think she should go for it and try new tings not every thing is so bad we always bump heads because I'm like go for it try it but she is like no I don't want to do it oh god and that just gets on my nerves I don't want to force her , but would like her to try more things what can I do ? Or how do I suggest her do do things in a better way ? Please help me out
I want her to succeed in life and I don't know if she will with that attitude .

RickJ · Apr 25, 2008, 08:31 AM

My thought for this case: Don't force it... try bribery :)

Offer her $10 bucks to ride it. Assure her of the safety and that you'll be right there with her with your arms around her.

... just a thought :)

CaRRazyBootiful · Apr 25, 2008, 08:36 AM

I think what your doing is great. When I was a child I was much like your daughter and all I really needed was a little extra encouragement. She may say no a couple of times but if you keep pushing her she might just go for it. The only down side to that is that you have to be careful not to be overbearing and to pushy. I am now 28 and my mom still feels like she has to push me along life. I appreciate her but sometimes she drives me crazy! Anyway I think suggesting something 2 or 3 times or even suggesting new things and ideas is great. It will help her mind grow.

ScottGem · Apr 25, 2008, 08:40 AM

Force her? NO WAY! At 10 she is old enough to have an idea what she is comfortable with. You can encourage and support, but let her decide.

N0help4u · Apr 25, 2008, 03:09 PM

I agree with Rick and scott. Don't push her to do anything. If she hates it she will never let you live it down. But you could do like Rick said. Maybe say I bet $5.-10. That you like it once you try it. Of course she might claim she didn't like it to get the money but if she really did like it then you shouldn't have to coax her any more about it.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 25, 2008, 03:21 PM

Never force, my 7 year old ( we have been to Six Flags over Ga 5 times this year already)
But with his mom and I, he won't do anything, ( scared) but put him in a group with 4 or 5 friends and he rides the biggest rides he can get on.

Bluerose · Apr 25, 2008, 03:51 PM

Please don't 'force' your ten year old to do anything. Tell her, ask her, encourage her, reward her, even bribe here. But if she says no, trust her and her decisions. She will be looking to you more and more as she gets older, she needs to know that she can trust you to be on her side. Maybe she will be as adventurous as you when she is your age. For now she needs your protection.

isonesexymom27 · Apr 25, 2008, 04:26 PM

:) I didn't plan on forcing her lol I just used that line because I knew I would get more response :D so people could give me more advise you know use a line that catches your eye or attention :cool:

Fr_Chuck · Apr 25, 2008, 04:35 PM

It is hard to tell, I was at Six Flags a couiple of week ago, and there was a day, and he was dragging ( physcially forcing) his child into the log ride, I almost walked up to say something, the poor child was clinging to the pole and the father was trying to use phsycial force to put the child into the ride.

ScottGem · Apr 26, 2008, 04:34 AM

Originally Posted by isonesexymom27

:) i didn't plan on forcing her lol i just used that line because i knew i would get more response :D so people could give me more advise you know use a line that catches your eye or attention :cool:

As you can tell using a false subject line may not get the response you want. I suggest you be more honest when asking questions.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 26, 2008, 05:39 AM

You are correct Scott, also now people may be less helpful, the story of the person who called wolf

NowWhat · Apr 28, 2008, 10:51 AM

When I was little, we went to six flags over GA for the first time. There were 4 of us kids and then my parents. My dad spent a pretty penny getting us all in there. So, he told us that we were going to ride every single ride - no questions asked! My mom had to ride, she hates rollercoasters. Anyway, I discovered that they weren't to bad.

On the flip side, my husband had a similar experience - he will NOT ride any rides to this day. It makes him sick.

So, use your judgement. She isn't you, as much as you may want her to be. If she tells you no on something, respect her feelings.
Put it out there. But respect her wishes if you don't get the response you want.

It's okay to be shy. She will find her way and be the person SHE is meant to be. As a parent, we want what we think is best for our kids. You want her to be a shining star - and you may be feeling that she is more of a wall flower. That is okay. If all you have to contend with is the fact that she reluctant to try new things - you are doing pretty good.

Good Luck.