[nowisalongtime]

I have been denied any contact or information on my daughter for 25years just because some authority decided what was in her best interests.

It is my belief that many people use their acquired authority to manipulate other peoples lives for the sake of social research. This is what led to the unlawful adoption of my first child. I was an easy target, a young unmarried mother with a MH history but someone who could have been easily helped rather than hindered.

The psychiatrist and expert witness use information and supporsition that was based on other cases and 'educated' guesswork. They are well paid so they want to appear to be of good judgement and when they are wrong no one knows until it is too late, if at all.

My child once adopted became of no further interest to social services so how can they have any concern or knowledge of her welbeing? I have two other children who have been deprived of their sister and she them. Please can we have some justice? Families are very important and it would make so much difference even now to have acknowledgement of the wrong that has been done and the opportunity to reclaim some time together.

How?

[Synnen]

Get a lawyer.

While what happened to you then still can (and does) happen now, at least now more options are available. Lawyers will work pro bono, or on payment plans, so that poor young mothers have legal rights well represented as well.

It's also a LOT harder for parental rights to be severed without just cause (like proven abuse).

If you want justice (and what exactly would justice be to you at this point? The adoptive parents do IVF and hand you THEIR kid for 25 years? Or what?) then hire a lawyer.

But I have to say that adoption sometimes IS in the child's best interests, even if it is not in the best interests of the mother. I would need more details of the circumstances of your case to even BEGIN to judge that, and I am in no way legal counsel.

As far as reclaiming time together--start a search, just like millions of other birthparents and adoptees have done. You've actually got a running head start on many of them, because you have information about the adoptive parents. Start posting on internet search sites. File a letter with the courts that basically says you would allow contact with her if she comes searching for YOU.

Remember, though--she may have no interest in a reunion. It is always best for a reunion to be broached through a third party. You may also look into counseling with a qualified therapist who has dealt with adoption issues. You will need support whether she desires a reunion, but if she does NOT want to meet you, you will need to learn to deal with the emotions that go along with that, and a qualified counselor or therapist can help with that.

[FeelSoNumbZombie]

Have you posted on search sites such as Adoption.com - Information on International, Domestic, Child & Agency Adoptions, Stories, Laws
Have you registered with ISRR?
Have you joined a search and reunion site in the state that your child was born?