[hollybrijj]

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Recently I have been finding that he is lying to me. We are see each other almost every day and he says that he loves me and what not and I care about him a lot. The other night we were planning on going out and he told me he would call me when he got out of the shower, so there I was waiting for him and he never called and didn't answer my call. He said it was because he wanted a boys night and knew I would get mad. He apologized and said that he would be upfront with me. Then last night he told me to drop him off at 8pm because he had a lot of homework (hes a senior in college) I said OK and specifically asked him if he was going to go out and he said no. Then I get a text at 3am from a girl I know saying she saw him at a local bar and was mad I wasn't there.

I love him so much and can't imagine not being with him, however when he drinks he gets DRUNK and he had admitted cheating on his exgirlfriend and I don't know what to do. My heart breaks thinking of what is going on and thinking that we will break up. Please help!

[talaniman]

What's going on is he has not been communicating, and is choosing other activities over this relationship. If he has a drinking problem, that's something that he needs to deal with. Either way, there is no reason for you to put up with this behavior at all. So don't be that confused, or in so love, to see that you need to protect yourself, and your heart, from his bad, selfish, confusing behavior. Sorry, but you have to step back to see its his problem, not yours, and it will be so frustrating to you, not knowing how to help him, but by leaving him alone, he can help himself, if he wants to.

[bronxkid]

He's tired of you or cheating on you because I'm a guy and my friends/associates say they only want a girlfriend so they have someone to speak to hang out with get freaky etc. and they like to experience new things because they get tired of the same thing but I don't ( it wasn't a REAL relationship but one day you should find true love)

[bigbird213]

I know you don't want to hear this, but you are better off without him.

It will be a hard road, but without some changes nothing will get better. You might be okay for a week or two, but the same problems will come around again and again.

Trust is a top priority in a relationship, without trust, not much else matters...