[CantLetGo1227]

Hello, I posted a few weeks back about my break up having to do with the fact that I recently discovered that I have OCD. It caused me to constantly break every little thing down with my girlfriend, and question her beyond belied and never able to let small things go, pretty much I was insecure about the relationship, but I seemed to have no control.


We broke up and it ended on terms of no talking what so ever, and moving on with out lives... well a few weeks before the break up she was trashed and a guy took advantage of her and they made out, well she told me about it and was very upset and apologized so many times... well come to find out today I hear that her and the guy were "friends" still but there was a little more to it, They are actually an item now.

Now after dating this girl for about a year, I often ask myself, such a girl who loved me more then anything as she stated, how can you not be here for me when I'm starting to take medication and I'm going to be able to control myself? She got up and left and now she's onto somebody else.

The doctor prescribed me to a few things, and one of them included clonazepam, it's a small tablet that cures axiety or panic attacks at the time. Well I find myself taking one in the morning, afternoon, and before I go to sleep... The problem I'm having is that when I take it, I seem to be calm, and have the "who cares" attitude... but as soon as the medication fades away, I have the worst "hangover" I guess you should say... I get really really depressed and find myself crying and thinking about everything again.

Here's the thing... I don't date much, I'm 23 years old and have always been the one just hooking up, because I'm very picky and it takes a lot for me to actually date a girl... The first girl I dated, was for a year... she cheated on me... the 2nd girl I dated for 2 1/2 years... she left me for my best friend... now this girl... she's 18... yes I know she's young... she left me for a 17 year old junior in high school... please tell me how to deal... becausee that's an extreme shot to the heart when all I did was spoil this girl beyond belief... any help would be gracious... thank you

[N0help4u]

It sounds like you both need to go on with your different lives.
To me it sounds like she just couldn't handle your constant questioning and mistrust.
They say when someone is constantly accused of something they often tend to go and do what they keep getting accused of.
It sounds like she was getting involved with this guy before you broke up and most likely was just waiting for the timing of breaking up with you to get more serious with the other guy.
Sounds like she felt breaking up was inevitable and was working on a different direction with her future.
You say you broke up with no contact so why would she be there for your medication?

Go to counseling to learn how not to be so insecure and picking about things. Then when you have a healthy idea of how you are going to treat a girl in a way that she doesn't feel like she is being under a microscope on everything then find a girl that doesn't cheat.

[talaniman]

Deal with your health, and get your life together, and move on with YOUR life. Have you read any of the links in my signature? They are just what you need. You should be glad to be rid of this cheater.