[pixiepeel]

Me and my Boyfriend were together for over 3 years from the age 15-18 years and we still are both 18. We were both each others first love, and lost our virginity to one another. He has kissed a couple of girls before me, but nothing else so we were each others first. Since Christmas 2007 for about 3 months our relationship started to get boring, we started to get annoyed with each other and would argue all the time. Then about a month ago we were sitting in a car park and decided to stay great friends and kind of 'take a break' as we both decided it wasnt working.

Then the very next day i found this message to this girl he working with and who is 5 years older than he is and his boss! and it was quite flirtacious and it really upset me so i confronted him and asked him why he would do this one day after we had broken up. (I also knew beforehand that his girl he works with was reeeaallly into him even though she denied this and played innocent both of them making me look like the paranoid fool) He then apologised and the next two week after the break up i was a mess, and we didnt tlk much, we met up a few time but that always led to sex so we decided it was best to stay away from one another as we still had feeling.

In that time i met a guy at a club and we kissed a few times and i went to his apartment and we fooled around. only touching but we didnt not have sex, or oral. i saw it as a bit of a rebound and hated myself for it, and just wanted somebody to hold me. There were deffinatly not any emotions tied to it. Then after 4 weeks apart me and my ex went out with friends and got along great and we talked about getting back together but he seemed a little upset.

I then found out that he had kissed the girl he had worked with which upset me majorly as he had told me when we were going out that he didnt fancy her! but i forgave him and said we had both made mistakes and we gave it another shot to only find out that night that he had had sex with her! I threw up and was in pieces, especially because i am a size 14UK and he said he would never have sex with a skinny girl and shes about a size 8UK. After that i didnt talk to him for a few days. but then one night i rang him and we talked about how we couldnt live without one another.

He told me that in the month we were apart he lost himself and who he was, and he didnt know whether the feelings he had for me were hurt, or because he was really in love with me. he said he did those things with that girl because they both got along and she was there, that he really liked her and they were thinking of having a relationship. However he said the sex wasnt very good, hence the reason he came to me for sex when we were both single (at the time i didnt know he had had sex with that girl or was even seeing her)

Right now we are in a relationship and have been for a week..were getting along great and its really hard for me to forget about her. My boyfriend was upset that i got with that guy but its not like i work with him and i will never see him again. He deleted her number and told her it was over between them and he was gettn back with me. And he stil has her on his facebook and they still work together. but in a wierd way i dnt trust him..i dnt understand how u can jus shut off someone u were getting so along with. he says its me the one he loves and cares about and bla bla bla

and well basically im asking people to tell me whether its right of me to take him back, i knw we were on a break at the time but its the fact he got with a girl he promised me he was never into and it makes me sick he could sleep with someone so quickly after we had broken up..should i trust him, should i have a go at that girl? i dnt know what to do...how do you trust somebody again? give me your opinions even if you call me stupid
im nor confused that anything so any options would help, thank you.

[talaniman]

im nor confused that anything so any options would help, thank you.

I think your best option at this point, is to leave him alone, and seek to put your own life together, as you have invested way too much into a relationship, and not enough into yourself. I don't think that's healthy at all.

[MoeyLuv]

I think you need to give up on him, obviously he always wanted to have sex with the girl he was working with if he did it so soon after you broke up
He's not worth it girl!!