[jiltedgirl]

Okay. So one of my best friends is abroad. I met up with her during spring break overseas. She has this guy friend who she became really really close friends with over there and who apparently knows a lot of stuff about me by default. She was going on and on about how she wanted to hook me up with him, but I said no. He sounded waaaay too like me--moody, intense, silly, and immature.

Well, I finally met him and to my surprise, he's completely different from me. He's intense in a different way. I feel like in many ways we're opposites. And crap, I am infatuated with and repelled by him at the same time. I feel like he has a lot of problems underneath his aloof exterior. I have pretty good intuition when it comes to people, as in if I get bad vibes from them or not, even if my first impression of them is wrong.

Anyway, the last time I was hanging out with them, he would talk to me one moment, leave, then come back to talk to me. He would dance with me, then tell me he had to talk to his friend, and then come back. When I told him I was leaving, he looked at me and asked, "give me 30 minutes." I left without saying goodbye. I had a flight out the next day.

My friend is convinced we have "a thing" for each other. She is forever the optimist, and probably exaggerating things. I'm afraid he acted weird because she was prob pressuring him (as she was doing to me) to talk to him/hook up, not because he's interested.

I left a message on his Facebook wall and he didn't write back on my wall. Instead, he Facebook messaged me. I also he untagged the photos I took with him. I've heard from my best friend's ex that he has "family" issues and really cares about appearances/reputation.

Dear lord. I know how to pick them...

[talaniman]

You have those feelings to protect yourself, so listen to them and let him fade into the sunset. NEXT!

[nkychic]

Yes, time to let this one go! Until he can get things straight in his life, he'll never be able to have a healthy relationship with another.

[jiltedgirl]

Hello. Thanks for you input. My friend just got back from her Eurotrip and is settling back in her university abroad. She told me, without my asking, that that guy friend "really liked you," that he thought I was "very pretty," that he had to "attend to his friends that night because that was the only time he was going to see them," and looks forward to "seeing you in the fall." I said that was nice.

I wonder why he couldn't just tell me this through Facebook? Why did he have to use my friend as an intemediary? Lol. (Fine... I came across a bit short with him and sarcastic, cutting the conversation short, but I was just protecting myself.. )

Anyway, it figures that I am crushing on an emotionally unavailable person, even though I will never act upon such feelings.

Sigh...

[talaniman]

I never put a lot of stock into what friends, or relatives convey about the feelings of others, and your right, I mean what ever happen with telling people face to face what's going on? All these new fangled ways to communicate, but who's communicating?