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    mattpotter Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 7, 2008, 08:52 PM
    How do I keep it going
    Me and my girl frind live in difrent towns and we don't get to see each other all week until the weakend and its hard to just see her on the weekends. What should I do to keep the relationship going strong?
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    JoeCanada76 Posts: 6,669, Reputation: 1707
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    Apr 8, 2008, 12:57 AM
    Eventually somebody will have to make a move to see each other more often or to continue it strong. In my opinion, you can only keep it going for a certain amount of time before it starts breaking apart, because distance has a lot to do with it. The big question is does both of you feel like this thing is worth keeping strong with each other and if there is a strong future ahead of you both. Somebody has to take a chanch? How does the other person feel? Have you been honest about how this bothers you and that you would like to see this person more then just weekends?
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    Apr 8, 2008, 02:53 AM
    Though I eventually got dumped by my girlfriend we were together for 9 months and we both lived in different cities and I was actually happy with the weekend arrangement.. I don't think her decision to leave me was influenced by the fact that we live in different cities.. maybe it was - I don't know.
    But for me - yes I wanted to spend all my time with her , but at the same time this "arrangement" kind of made me look forward to seeing her every time, and it was exciting in a sense cause we never had the chance of getting bored with each other.. Being with someone ALL the time can be bad..
    Relationships tend to be suffocating so I think you should look at the plus side of things. If you get to see each other every weekend it isn't that dramatic I think.. It means you aren't THAT far away from each other..
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    Apr 8, 2008, 03:08 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mattpotter
    me and my girl frind live in difrent towns and we dont get to see eachother all week untill the weakend and its hard to just see her on the weekends. what should i do to keep the relationship going strong?
    How far apart are you? Distance would be an excuse if the relationship already had faults. You can make the time together extra valuable, plan surprises etc. You also need to talk, at some point, about both of your expectations, as this arrangement will not work forever!
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    Apr 8, 2008, 07:14 AM
    If your both very committed to make a life together, then you can work together, but if your just hooking up, and having fun, it will have a lot of problems. If its serious and committed, the distance will make you miss each other, but after a time a decision to bridge that distance, will be necessary. That weekend stuff will get old fast, without a good plan. Good luck.

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