[ifeellost]

My mom has not had a boyfriends or a male in her life for the last 12 years. My dad abandoned my sister, my mother and I at that time for his other lovers. She now met this guy a week ago. Ever since she met him she doesn't believe in coming home anymore. We went a whole 7 days without her sleeping at home. In the last week I have only seen her for less than 4 hours.

She leaves us with no money, no gas, no food, no adult supervision, or a reliable way to contact her. She routinely turns off her phone, and does not care to call back.

She claims that she now has a life, and that my sister and I are old enough to fend for ourselves. We have no one else to run for and had to ask the neighbors for toilet paper because we didn't have any. After much begging, pleading and crying she decided to give us some money for food.

He claims that I am disrespectful and therefor came barging into my house last night and yelled and screamed at me. My says that there was nothing wrong with doing that, and she just left with him. She didn't ask him to stop or anything.

I know nothing about this man. I don't know where he works, what he does, his last name, his history, why he's no longer with his previous family nor what his intentions are. She sided with him

I'm afraid that the next time he will hit me and she will pretend it never happened.

I need help. I don't know what to do. I live at home, I just turned 18 but my sister is 15, if we call CPS I am afraid that they will take my sis away. My mom just won't have it. She doesn't listen to us and just leaves with him for days at a time.

:( Someone please help.

[starbuck8]

Oh honey, I wish I could come and pick up you and your sister right now! You are right to think that if you call CPS, they could take your sister into protective custody. Once you get CPS involved, it is hard to uninvolve them. However, you may not have any choice! The next question is what would happen to you all alone then, since you are 18.

This just makes my heart ache for you. You shouldn't have to be put in that position. You need to have food, money and transportation for yourselves. Are you and your sister still in school? Do you have any relatives ANYWHERE that you could call to try and help you somehow? Do you have a church nearby? Perhaps you could go to a church and talk with a minister about your predicament, before you involve any authorities. They might have some advice and help they could give you. I'm sure they could provide you with food at the very least.

You just may end up having no choice but to involve the authorities though, if you are afraid for your own safety. It sure doesn't sound like a very healthy environment for you to be in.

Also, just another thought... look in your phone book, or call 411 and there is usually a child help line. Try to call them and see if they have any other options that may help you.

Please let us know what you find out and how you are doing. Even if you just want to talk, there are people here to listen. Someone else may also come up with some better idea's than I have mentioned here. I don't know where you live or I would try and find the children's help line phone # for you. If you are in the US, I'm pretty sure there is a national # that you can call.

Take care of yourself and your sister, and I sure hope you are both OK! I'll say some prayers for you OK?

Hugs!

[N0help4u]

Since you are 18 maybe you could get a part time job to buy food for you and your sister and make the best of the situation or call CPS. Another alternative might be find another family member you can rely on to help you out.
At your age CPS very likely would take your sister and leave you there.

[the1unv]

I am sorry to hear of your situation. It is sad to say but, you and your sister are of legal age to stay home alone. When you say no food... are the cubards bare? Or is it just "stuff" you don't like? She met this guy a week ago... so this has only been going on for a week? The fact is she doesn't have to leave you money... as far as no adult supervision... I am sorry to say that YOU are an ADULT. You are 18. If you are truly worried about your health and safety... call CPS or DHS and get some help... if it is just the fact that your Mom has finally met someone and you are jealous because she is enjoying herself... dont waste the states time. I am not trying to be an a$$... the truth is there may be nothing you can do.
Mike