[jone8668]

Ok, so my girlfriend and I broke up because she needed time. She said she needed to know she could be happy being single. She also said it seemed like she was always in a relationship. I was fine with this because I care about her and think a person has to take care of themselves. I was very understanding with the break up. However I do want her back. Without pressuring her or trying to influence her. We are going out to dinner tonight and over spring break we were in the same city with friends and ended up meeting up because she called. We went out to the bars together and she came back to the hotel with me. I let her call and text me which she always ends up doing. It is confusing because this was her decision but it seems like she wants me to be there but not be together. I am not interested in being her friend. I am interested in dating her. I know she still has feelings for me and is trying to do her own thing. Even though I'm a guy I really don't have any desire to date other girls right now and it has been about a month since the breakup. I have the opportunities but I think by taking these opportunities I will ruin my chances. Ok so hopefully there is an expert out there who can tell me how to get her back. She is absolutely the most amazing girl I have ever dated and if its meant to be it will. But if I can swing it in my favor I would like to.

[COOKIE MONSTER]

Look hun she needs time if you pressure her you going to lose her.

I've been told afew times that you have to be happy single to be happy in arelationship just give her the time she needs and she will come back to you if she doesn't then it wasn't meant to be

But look if she didn't think much of you she wouldn't be calling you or texing you or going out to dinner now would she?

Theirs no point trying to get somebody back when they don't want to or are not ready to its awaiting game but if you want to play the waiting game because you care about her then you have to wait

ALL GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT!

[talaniman]

Ok, so my girlfriend and I broke up because she needed time...
I let her call and text me which she always ends up doing... but it seems like she wants me to be there but not be together.

Do you want her back bad enough to let her do as she pleases, without regard to your feelings? That's exactly what's happening, and your letting her. This is not love. Disappear from her life, and give her what she asked for, but don't go willingly into the friendzone. She knows you want her back, but she doesn't feel the same way, that's obvious. Back off, and balance your life with things other than her, that you enjoy, and love yourself because she doesn't. At least not enough to maintain a relationship with. Nine times out of ten, when a female needs time, or space, or a break, they have other interests in mind, so take it for what its worth, and leave her alone, and be a lot less available.