On one hand he is honest about their relationship. On the other hand your very uncomfortable with it, and that's where the rub lies. To your credit you have not moved in together, and I hope that continues, as there is much more to learn of these two before any decisions, or big changes can occur. If you continue dating him, pay attention to his actions as well as his words. Those you can judge in a realistic way, as if he pulls away from her, to let your relationship flourish, and grow that's a positive. You have every right to be cautious, and should express that in a non-threatening way, and let him make his decision, as to how he handles things, and puts you first before his ex. I think its important to give him the space and trust, to handle his business in a way that put your fears to rest, and gives you confidence in his actions. If not, It makes it rough, and you shouldn't have to settle for anything less than what you deserve. Are there kids involved, you made no mention of any. If not you shouldn't have to worry about her interfering in this relationship, and you should also be alert to any baggage he carries from his life with the ex. Paying attention can go a long way in seeing any red flags you need to know about.
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