[livinlarge]

I have been with my husband for 5 years he caught me going through his wallet the other day. I totally trust him,I wanted to just see if he was truly being honest to me. I was curious if I would find on his pay stub that he was making more money, or if he had any phone numbers in there. Needless to say I didn't find anything, thank god. But I was wondering how many people out there actually do the snooping around? Some friends I went to school with still stay in touch they both told me they do but would never admit it in front of there husbands. So do you do the dirty deed?:confused:

[spitvenom]

I do not snoop at all. I trust my Fiancée with all my heart. If I didn't she wouldn't be my Fiancée :)

[topladyj]

Yeah I have only for the fact I have been ran over before. I feel I trust my man, just to make sure he is being trustworthy and honest I have.

[livinlarge]

That's it... 50/50 Anyone else?

[N0help4u]

he caught me going through his wallet the other day.
I totally trust him,
I wanted to just see if he was truely being honest to me.
I was curious if I would find on his pay stub that he was making more money, or if he had any phone numbers in there.
Needless to say I didn't find anything, thank god.

You contradicted yourself
You totally trust him
You just wanted to see if he was truly being honest
You were curious if you would find he makes more or if he had any phone numbers

Sounds like you do not totally trust him.


Snooping is pointless. Usually if a guy has something to hide you see the red flags and he eventually gives himself away

[templelane]

I would never snoop. I also don't look over my boyfriend's shoulder when he opens mail or reads e mail. We live together but bank separately so I would never look at his bank statements either.

If you don't have trust what do you have?

How would you feel if he did the same to you?

[Alty]

I don't and will never snoop. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship, especially if you want that relationship to work. You obviously don't trust your husband one little bit if you are snooping on him. Why don't you trust him, what did he do to deserve this kind of treatment?

[twinkiedooter]

I never snooped on my husband but when he misused the ATM bank card I went into his wallet, got the card out and did a little plastic surgery on him. Ditto on the Home Depot card - that got plastic surgery performed on as well. I would really get ticked when he would give out his home phone number to his girlfriends though. When any of them would call I'd politely ask them where they lived and when they wanted to know I would tell them that I was happily packing up his clothes and would be right over to her house with them as she could happily support him in the lifestyle that he's accoustomed to. Gee, I wonder why they kept hanging up on me? Was I rude or something? LOL P.S. they never called again.

[isabelgopo]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I've done it to my exboyfriend and I discovered that he had 50.000 dollars in credit card debts and a huge overspending addiction. I haven't done it to my actual husband but I wouldn't hesitate if I suspected that he's hiding something from me.

[talaniman]

Without an inkling of proof, or even a feeling, I would never go through my wife's personal stuff, and she has never gone through mine, or even acted suspicious. How can you trust, and still snoop, unless you've been burned, and have trust issues to begin with.

[Synnen]

It's never even OCCURRED to me to snoop.

I don't even have my husband's computer password, and that doesn't bother me in the least. He doesn't have mine, either... but I think it's just that if either of us asked, the other would just rattle it off.

I don't need to snoop--if I want to know something, I just ask.

[livinlarge]

I trust him, however like I said have been burnt in the past by other guys. I always have snooped regardless of who I am with and if I trust or not. I do however like the part about how: Snooping is pointless. Usually if a guy has something to hide you see the red flags and he eventually gives himself away. (I hope this is true in every circumstance) Well I would like to try and keep this conversation going for I want to know if I am in the right or wrong on this. I hope to hear from many people. I still believe you never know anyone and the only way to know for sure if someone is hiding stuff from you is to look.

[Synnen]

I think you're in the wrong.

LOOK at what you're saying. You say you trust him, but you don't believe ANYONE (including him) is telling the truth unless you look yourself. Honey--that's not trust. Trust is believing that a person is who they say they are, and who their actions make them. Trust is NOT having to verify for yourself every little thing.

You don't trust him; you don't trust anyone, apparently.

[livinlarge]

No I mean you can't truly believe anyone I have been in a relationship before with a guy for three years I trusted and thought I knew him, needless to say I didn't he was hiding women and drugs behind my back thank you very much this is why I feel this way.

[Synnen]

What I'm telling you is: If you trusted the guy you are with now, you wouldn't be snooping. Period.

So... you don't trust him. It may not be HIS fault you don't trust him, but you don't. Admit that, and go from there.

[livinlarge]

I don't want to go into my personal life with anyone. But I do have my reasons for everything. I just want to know who really snoops(even once) and who hasn't?

[Samini81]

I think everyone snoops even if they don't mean to and those who don't mean to when they find themselves snooping they either stop because they want to believe they trust their spouse completely, or they will keep on snooping because they already started so they feel they might as well find out the results of their snooping. Its not the best way to build trust but every relationship is different and trust is one of the easiest things to earn and the hardest things to keep unless of course you have been, for lack of a better word, been burned.