[Icingonthecake]

I met my boyfriend 2 months ago on one of those dating sites (it is a reputable one). We recently became intimate for the first time. We live about an hour apart from each other so at times it is tricky to see one another. I noticed that the last 3-4 days he has been distant and not calling or texting me like he normally does and today he didn't call me at all. In the 2 months we have dated he has never missed a phone call. Needless to say I was disappointed and hurt. It has been four years since he has had a girlfriend (he has been divorced for 11 years). I don't want to overreact but yet if he doesn't feel the same way about me now as before we became intimate I want to know. We spent the night at his house and I we both had an amazing time. What is the proper protocol? Should I ask him why he has been distant?

[duck22]

Communication is essential. I think you should be straight with him and simply ask why he is being distant. If you are nervous on when to approach him I suggest during a time where you two are eating or in a car ride together. Whatever you do, get the facts first, you don't want to eat yourself up by assuming anything. Good luck.

[talaniman]

He is not showing much love on his part is he? Maybe that's why he hasn't had a g/f in 4 years, and been divorced for 11. The chase is over, so don't assume anything about how he feels, as you can't read his mind. Obviously he got what he wanted, and is satisfied, and doesn't feel the need to go out of his way, to chase you any more. That's not an assumption, that's his actions. You don't know him well enough to make assumptions about his feelings, and its on you, how you react to him now. Back off, and pay attention, as you have already called him, but that doesn't answer your question does it? Sex has complicated, yet another new relationship. His actions will though. Wait and see what they are, with no expectations.

[ScottGem]

You aren't going to like this lecture, but 2 months is hardly enough time to decide whether you should be intimate with a guy. Hopefully I'm wrong, but I suspect that now that he's gotten his rocks off, he not as interested and on to the next conquest.