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packer04 · Mar 12, 2008, 06:27 AM

If 2 people have been seeing each other for a few months, but he still says we are only friends and he says nothing of being exclusive can a woman or a man date others. Should you just say you're going to date others? Its okay to date several(not sleep with them) and have your options open for meeting that special person. Is that how it is today if your not exclusive to one person?

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Mar 12, 2008, 06:43 AM

You can do anything you want.

As long as you haven't made anything final with this guy then I see no problem with dating other people. Also make sure it is okay with the person that you are seeing because some people don't like that.

Marriedguy · Mar 12, 2008, 10:47 AM

I don't view dating as an exclusive relationship. I don't recommend people sleeping together during this dating stage. You don't want to sleep with him, while he is sleeping with other women.

He defined the relationship as just that dating. You are not his girlfriend and he is not your boyfriend. You don't have to accept this!

Most sane, mature, intelligent women I know don't entertain this type of relationship. This type of relationship leaves you open to all type of STD's and increase the risk of you getting pregnant by an unknown partner. Unless, you want to be a guess on Maury I suggest you not go that route.

I think you really like this guy but he is not ready to commit to you. Instead of letting him go, you want to play the same game he is playing. You are probably thinking if he see that he could lose me to someone else he will step up. In your mind doing this is wrong that why you asking if it's ok.

Forget about this guy and find yourself a good man. Trust me, they are out there and they don't want a woman that has had multiple sex partners.

N0help4u · Mar 12, 2008, 10:56 AM

I would say he is saying ''friends only'' because very likely he wants to keep HIS options open for if he meets somebody else and wants to date them. So I would say why wait until you know he is seeing somebody?

kp2171 · Mar 12, 2008, 11:40 AM

Its all about communication.

I dated a girl who was completely open to "open" dating... no strings at all.

Now... we ended up dating exclusively for two years... but she was fine with the idea. She was young, liked attention, and was interested in different guys. That she stayed true for two years was probably a miracle.

So... it can happen... you just need to talk openly and honestly. Unfortunately, you might not get the same in return.

My stipulation to her was I was fine with her dating others, but when it became sexual, let me know. She didn't. She hid it and I found out after shed had me over one night. Shed apparently tried sex that didn't work out with him, then called me over to "fix" her, which I did. Next morning she's in the shower and I find out. It went nuclear.

Uhm.. back to you.

So... I really, honestly think it can work... but both sides need to be open and honest. Dating is dating. Nothing wrong with that as long as both sides are on the same planet.

talaniman · May 18, 2008, 12:01 PM

Your as free as he is, and should practice safe sex.

JBeaucaire · May 18, 2008, 06:33 PM

Not only can you, you should. Entertaining these thoughts alone means your chances of ending up permanently with this guy are drastically reduced. So, you might as well get back out there.

Dating others will either improve your options by new opoortunities, or it may rev up the heat on your existing relationship and lead to it becoming exclusive. Either result is a win, right?

No lies, no apologies, no manipulations, though.

Mr_am · May 18, 2008, 09:54 PM

If you believe in 1-1 relationship.. you should find someone who shares the same idea like you... I discourage the "openess" from the very start..! From the beginning one should be serious and seek exclusivity (personal view)... those with openness should stick to each other.. and not to those believing in exclusivity.. they are two worlds..

Kati-Katt · May 18, 2008, 10:03 PM

You'd have to talk to the person who your "seeing" about that. If he won't make it public or have enough respect to give enough recognition to say yeah I'm dating her then maybe it's not worth it... well at least with him. I mean well... why would anyone date someone who says your not with them?