[Dovic]

Hi

I'm 25 and my girlfriend is 20. I've been with her now for 8 months and we've only had sex 3 times! The first was after about 2 months, then about 2 months after that and once again recently..

When I confront her about it she acts as if it's just been unfortunate as we rarely have places to go. She's extremely flirty and will talk about sex, and how much she fancies me. She will also instigate oral sex on me, but will never let me touch her. Then :( whenever we have a free house or a chance of taking a few days break away somewhere where we can be alone she will make excuses.

I really love her and don't want to leave her but I'm getting really frustrated!

Please help :(

[kp2171]

Lots of reasons this could be happening...

Are you using birth control?

You talk about a "free house"... what does that mean?

Do you know anything about her sexual history? Religious or social pressures?

More details would be helpful.

[topladyj]

Not sure how to answer this one. Maybe she is just not into it. Or doesn't have a high sex drive. Maybe she is afraid of having a kid. Or might be afraid that if she does it all the time then you might use her for that only. There really is no way to tell for sure there can be many of reasons. If you really love her I would make her dinner or do something romantic together and when you two are alone I would point blank ask her in a nice way why she doesn't want to have sex with you.

Also I have seen many times, in many relationships how one person wants it all the time and the other doesn't I am currently in that situation myself. If it is a situation like this you can either deal with it cause you love the person or find someone more suitable for your needs.

I hope this was kind of helpful the only way to know for sure is have a heart to heart talk with her. Good Luck!