[lostinthoughts]

Hi:
I met this guy through work and I fell for him. He gave mixed signals and I told him about my true feelings. Then he said that I misunderstood his signals. Though we had this emotional stuff between us but, being adult and professional it didn't effect our work and we finished the project 6 weeks ago, in flying colors. Then, I went mad, there was no forum for us to meet, that made me more mad and I sent him messages and e-mails. Within one week, I came back to my senses and to protect myself what I wrote as a long e-mail , in nutshell is-- I am hurt that he didn't allow us to continue our friendship, and so I am closing all my contacts from my side. If he thinks otherwise he has to contact me. Then after 2 weeks, I had to let him know something about the project, a negative result unfortunately, which he could have chhose to not to answer. I sent a text and he replied that he is sorry. Since then we have no contacts. From my sources I have heard that he misses me. Now my friends tell me that I have wrote a closed e-mail. Even if he wants, his male ego is not allowing him to contact me. Moreover, he doesn't know how I will react if he contacts me. Any insight?

[talaniman]

After all that, your still chasing and hoping, even though he plainly doesn't want what you want. Close the door your keeping open and move on with your life. If he had wanted you or your friendship, he would be there so its time to leave him alone, and get rid of false hope. Sorry you fell so deep.

[confused25]

You didn't do anything wrong. In the e-mail you sent him you made it clear that you are cutting contact and if he wants to re-open communication than he has to contact you. I agree with that. You have already tried to contact him before, now it's his turn. If he truly misses you than he will contact you. Just don't hold onto false hope. It's best you start letting him go from your mind and begin moving on.