[lifeishard]

After years of trying to get pregnant, I recently gave birth to triplets. My sister has also been trying to get pregnant, and we have become very close. They stop over for family dinners, and a few times, I had to yell at our dogs to be quite and leave the babies alone. I made the ultimate mistake of cursing also. I was informed that my perfect sister and her husband did not and do not approve of the way we are raising our babies, so she called all the members in my family to get them to agree to have my babies taken away from me and given to her. My family would not agree, much to her chagrin, and she said she knew how to get it done, since she is a former social worker.

I feel hurt, angry, betrayed and let to wonder whom to trust after this. I am literally beside myself. I thought we were really close and cared about each other, but instead, she goes behind my back to take my babies instead of confronting me.

She and her husband shove their opinions down your throat, always giving out unwanted advice and think they dress, act, speak and live perfectly. They always find fault with others, but not within themselves. My sister is on depression medication and now feels that no matter what happens, you need to always be on a even keel. Sadly enough, I am not perfect like her.

How do I handle this problem? My other family members made me promise not to say anything as it will cause problems between my sister and family. My entire family is over the age of 30, so we are adults, or at least I thought. Please, serious answers only.

[this8384]

You're confusing me. You say that you and your sister are close and that she stops over for family dinners, but then launch into 2 entire paragraphs about the bad things that she does. You also refer very sarcastically to her as "perfect" at least twice.

What exactly is it that she is objecting to? What were your dogs doing to the children? What is she basing her claim on that she's going to get the children?

[lifeishard]

This is your response to me...

You're confusing me. You say that you and your sister are close and that she stops over for family dinners, but then launch into 2 entire paragraphs about the bad things that she does. You also refer very sarcastically to her as "perfect" at least twice.

What exactly is it that she is objecting to? What were your dogs doing to the children? What is she basing her claim on that she's going to get the children?

I've never used this site before, so sorry if I'm doing this wrong. My sister and I became close over the past 2-3 years. She has always been quick to judge, and I've told her about that. She does live in a perfect world, as she puts it. I thought everything was fine between us up until this past Wednesday when I was informed of what she was doing behind my back.

Did that clear up things?

[this8384]

No. You still haven't told me what she objects to. What grounds does she have to even think that there's a possibility she's going to get your children?

[talaniman]

Keep your distance, and never trust them. Especially keep them out of your business. You have had fair warning.

[mariagerman]

Well since she is on depression medicine she could be jealous of your children, I would talk with her and keep her close as possbible, she is your sister, find out her motivation, a yell once in a while and a swear word is not going to have your children taken away, only neglect and abuse...

[chuff]

Just because you have the same parents does not mean you have to have her in your life until you die. If your sister is interfering negatively with the raising of your children then she needs to be removed from your life. You are the one who invites her over, so you need to quit doing that and remove her from your life and your children's life who probably don't need a nut around.