[babygirl1122]

I'm a single parent and my ex boyfriend has Seizures and now he wants to take the baby to his new house were he lives with his new girl who doesn't like me and I don't know how she would treat my daughter and I don't know if he has seizure while he is holding her what would happen to her. But since the baby been born he's been coming over to see her so then I know she is OK. But since I told him that I don't want her around our child he hasn't seen the baby. And we haven't gone to court yet for child support and he only gave me around $300 since the baby was born she is only 3 months. Do I have the right not to let take him take her since he Seizures? And also since he does have Seizures can I get visitation rights for when he wants to see her?

[justcurious55]

It will ultimately be the judge's decision, but you can argue and make a case that it is unsafe for him to be alone with the baby. But then he could come back and say he won't be alone, the girlfriend will be there or something like that. If I were you, I would try and find a mutual friend or someone you can both trust and be comfortable with and try for supervised visitation. If seizures, lack of adequate financial support, and a new girlfriend are the only things he's got against him I really don't see any reason why he shouldn't get any visitation and it's understandable that he doesn't want to be confined to your house or schedule when he's visiting with his baby. You do have reason to be concerned though and it would seem reasonable to request that another responsible adult be present in case he should have a seisure with the baby there.

[ldyastrid]

You don't say how often he has seizures. I hope he's under medical treatment for his condition. He's wanting to be an active father in your daughter's life - that's HUGE - and he's paid you some support. You need to go to Child Support and establish an order. Keeping him away from your daughter will only hurt her - children need both their parents (unless there are abuse/neglect issues). You can request supervised visitation and the person supervising has to be acceptable to both parents.

You don't like his current g/f - you don't know how she will treat your daughter - have you spoken to her? Approaching her as a concerned parent, she should respect that and be willing to talk with you. But what if the tables were turned and he doesn't like your b/f? Would you like him to take the stance that he should have custody and not let you see her because he doesn't like your boyfriend?

Bottom line - whatever is best for the child should be first and foremost. Communication is very important - between all participants in your daughter's life. Since it's for her, it would be best to put your personal issues aside and talk with the girlfriend and the father and express your concerns.

Even if you all are getting along, and he's paying some support - Child Support needs to be established in the courts. It's very important for HER that this is taken care of so there is no question about responsibility.

Good luck ~

[ScottGem]

Why haven't you gone to court yet? You need to get support and visitation setup by court order. You can cite his medical condition and request supervised visitation.