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kentstudentrn · Feb 26, 2008, 12:38 PM

My daughter is 8 months old. Her father currently has visitations with her which include an overnight stay at his apartment, where she has her own bedroom. He is in the process of being evicted and will have nowhere to go other than his parents' or grandparents' house- both in which there is only one small extra bedroom. My concern is this: are there legal limitations on a parent sharing a bedroom with a child of the opposite sex? :confused:

stinawords · Feb 26, 2008, 12:56 PM

Not one that is that young.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 26, 2008, 01:03 PM

No, children up to several year old often share the bed with their parents, often sleeping in the middle. Do you hate your ex so much you are trying to find ways to stop him from seeing his child??

ScottGem · Feb 26, 2008, 01:06 PM

Actually I would have concerns about a father sleeping with so young a child. But not the concern you are thinking of. I would be worried about him rolling over in his sleep and crushing her. I would urge getting a portable folding crib.

As for legality. Chuck is right, there is no laws that govern this.

kentstudentrn · Feb 26, 2008, 01:38 PM

Chuck: It's not that I hate him so much that I'm trying to stop him from seeing his child. Before you make comments like that you might want to make sure that you know the situation that you're talking about.

All I asked is if anyone knows about any limitations regarding a parent sharing a bedroom with a child of the opposite sex.

Thank you to those of you who were able to answer my question without passing judgement.

ScottGem · Feb 26, 2008, 01:41 PM

In Chuck's defense its not uncommon to make such judgements. Since you gave scant information, it would helps us help you if we know the full story.

kentstudentrn · Feb 26, 2008, 02:34 PM

No further information is needed to answer the question that I have asked. It's not a question that is dependent on the rest of the situation. Perhaps one of the biggest problems with the world today is that people are too quick to assume that they know a situation or to assume that it is appropriate for them to pass judgement on someone that they do not know.

ScottGem · Feb 26, 2008, 04:15 PM

I agree, that no more info is needed to answer the question you asked. However, the question as you posed it, leaves open other questions. And many of us who answer questions here prefer to help fix the problem, not just the symptom. This is the nature of sites like this. Once you decide to post, you open your issues up to just such reponses. If you don't want to be judged, then don't leave yourself open for such judgement byt not giving some explanation of the problem

Fr_Chuck · Feb 26, 2008, 04:23 PM

I often try and get to the reason for a question, think of it as free counseling. And heavens know I can tell you stories about a ex hating someone and going out of their way to hurt them.

And I did not say you did hate anyone I asked if you did.

But you are right I did assume it, and perhaps did not ask it in good light,
Not having a good personal couple of days.

I am sorry for hurting your feeling

Fr_Chuck · Feb 26, 2008, 04:25 PM

I have also PM you a personal note telling you I am sorry.

cdad · Feb 26, 2008, 07:11 PM

I think this board sees a lot of " how can I get rid of my ex " r " how can I get rid of my kids " type questions we all become a little jaded at times. I agree with both Scott and Chuck on their answers. I have only been here a short time and both at the very minimum try to help to the best of their abilities so sometimes they and myself included jump dance or otherwise read into questions posted to try to resolve ongoing issues posted in the question. If you had found a " yes " answer to your question then what would you do with that information ? That's why we make assumptions.

P.S. Fr_Chuck And ScottGem I appreciate what you guys do here just as a frequenter of this board. Thanks guys.

manyqs2day · Mar 9, 2008, 07:21 PM

I have recently dealt with an ex who hates her ex spouse so much she intentionally tries to keep the father away from them. More out of not wanting to lose custody, even though she rarely sees them. SHe doesn't want to lose the 1/2 of his paycheck she is currently getting. It her party money. It damn sure doesn't go for them. I am sure chuck has had to deal with plenty of that. Don't blame him for the quick presumption. I hear his thoughts on it! And it is so good of you to take the time to find out the answers you need prior to it being an issue. I hope you and your ex can find a way to keep an even keel relationship regarding your baby.