[johnisha]

Hi I'm new on here but my boyfriend is 26years old and I am 17 we love each other a lot I have been with him for 1year in the half I will be turning 18 in oct but my mom is now tripping she gave me a curfew and everything I am thing about getting a emancipation because I have a job and a place to live but what's so crazy about it she gave him consent to talk to me but now she don't want us together what should I do

[tkoernke]

Maybe she is reading him better than you are. Why don't you just ask her what is the problem and is there any thing that can make her OK it to date him--good luck

[JBeaucaire]

The guy is just your current love interest. This could change in a single day. Mom will still be mom. Get it? You need to be working to progress the realationship with the Mom to the next level, one of respectful adults. She may or may not be ready for that, so you may need to tread gently here, but tread you must.

Whether it's this guy or the next, you guys need to be able to discuss these things civilly and honestly. When you don't agree with their perspective, that doesn't mean they're wrong, so don't take that tack as a response. Hear what the parents have to say, take it in, acknowledge you've heard them, respect the house rules, and when it's appropriate, have your guy involved with this discussiion with them.

Regardless of your feelings for each other, originally you were a 16 year old girl dating a 25 year old man, and that is absolutely creepy. I grant it may be an innocent reality, I just doubt it. A 26 year old girl dating a 35 year old man, MUCH different situation.

You're not going to escape either the stigma of your situation NOR the actual real problems that exist with a teen/adult relationship for many years to come. You two need to be firm in your response to it, and you absolutely must believe it.