[jimbojones]

So where to start, I’m 17 but spare me the teen love crap I’ve heard it before and it’s not really the issue. As of five weeks ago I was introduced to a girl who for whatever reason I completely clicked with more than I ever have with anyone. Within two days we were great friends and completely trusted each other. I realised I liked her a lot and not just as a friend but she’s got a boyfriend 4 years older than her (she’s 18) that she’s been seeing for three years. =<
Well I decided to tell her how I felt anyway just cause she was such a good friend. For the record I’m usually a quite shy and introverted person and wouldn’t dream of being the tw*t that breaks up a relationship. Thing is she said she likes me too but we can’t go out cause she’s got a BF. She asked me what to do and I suggested she asked her BF how he felt about there relationship and act on that. She did and he said he didn’t envision losing her anytime soon. Hmm that’s what I get for being a good person ah well.
We started texting a lot and arranged to meet alone she said about how much she wanted to kiss me and I said I thought it was probably a bad idea and we still had a great time.
I saw her again at school and immediately regretted having not kissed, I tried moving on but when that didn’t work decided to leave my morals behind and tell her I regretted not kissing her. As a group of friends we all went out and at one point we were left alone and spontaneously kissed. All well and good we decide to make a regular thing of it but before we get chance down comes the bombshell. Turns out my best friend has liked her for years and now thinks he loves her he’s never told me this but he told her when I said I liked her. She doesn’t like him that way but things feel awkward between me and my friend now. As a finishing “problem” she’s decided not to break up with her BF for now basically cause she needs an adult for support as her family all but rejected her.
Nobody tell me plenty more fish in the sea cause I've cast my nets wide an only had a few bites and none as amazing as this one.
Any advice appreciated sorry it’s a small novel couldn’t find anything irrelevant.
Cheers wiv warm fuzzy beach love from California.

[oneguyinohio]

As a finishing “problem” she’s decided not to break up with her BF

That kind of finishes it unless you want to wait around for some possibility that may never happen. At the same time, you'd know she was doing her thing with the other guy.

I personally wouldn't want to play second fiddle regardless of her reasons for choosing the other guy.

As far as your friend who likes her as well... just shows you have similar tastes... not really much competition to serve any purpose since she has chosen her path.

Not every relationship is going to feel like it would be so perfect. Sometimes people click immediately, and other times, as you know it doesn't happen, or else it takes a lot of work.

Just remember the good things you liked about your relationship with her, and try to build those in your next relationship. Things may not be perfect automatically but they can be worked toward if you have a clear idea of what you want.

[Simple Asian]

[QUOTE]Thing is she said she likes me too but we can't go out cause she's got a BF.[/QUOTE
first she need to clear herself out that who she likes and all

asked her BF how he felt about there relationship and act on that. She did and he said he didn't envision losing her anytime soon

well if she already asked and the guy said so... do you want to be the bad guy and break thing up ? Think dude..

we were left alone and spontaneously kissed

now she really need to clear herself out there... think that she has a boyfriend now but she kissed u ? What make you think that if you guys go out later... wont she does the same thing ?

Turns out my best friend has liked her for years and now thinks he loves her he's never told me this but he told her when I said I liked her. She doesn't like him that way but things feel awkward between me and my friend now

and also you don't want to break the friendship with your best friend right?. BROS ALWAYS B4 HOS man

As a finishing “problem” she's decided not to break up with her BF for now basically cause she needs an adult for support as her family all but rejected her

well if she already said that then... problem solve... sorry to be hush on you but you need to have a wake up call.. ^^

last but not leaset... lol... i no that you said you don't want to hear the teen love and fish in the sea... well it just that i need to bring it up... i no that you don't really love her yet... but you think... but it not really..

and fish ? Lol... let me put it as ggirls... lol.. girls are out there... go find it...

[jimbojones]

Thanks both. I'm not egotistic enough to let playing second fiddle bother me. And we have a good chance of a relationship as she's told me she intends to break up with her BF just after the 20th of July when she's moving out and that she'd like to date me then. So you reckon I should drop it all till then.
By the way when I said about fish in the sea and teen love I wasn't saying it didn't apply just that I'd heard it before. I do think I love her though we've had a couple of really deep conversations and want exactly the same from life.
Basically best advice against it is Bros before Hos but I'm pretty sure my friend would understand, I would have talked to him but I'm not supposed to know.

[Simple Asian]

I see... well it all up to you.. as long as you happy and think that you not stupid to waiting for her ^^ then you on the right track...

best wishes and have fun