[Raazipond]

How important is the looks and age of a guy.. if I were to go around.
I am sorry to sound silly. I look very good and worried about comparison among people.
Please help.. :confused:

[whyohwhy]

Yes... I am superficial. I have to be attracted to a guy first. If I can find at least one (but, usually prefer more) attractive quality... a great smile, great hair, cute butt... etc. then I can overlook some other stuff. But, I need that initial attraction to guy to even give him a chance at seducing me with his great personality.

[ISneezeFunny]

I always question people that tell me that they're "very good looking"...

Really? How good looking are you? Are you THAT good looking?

Appearance is somewhat the triggering mechanism, but really, it's everything else. It applies to both guys and girls. For instance, I went on a date with a girl who was... absolutely... gorgeous. Really. My friends kept egging me on about how I got her. Looked just like megan fox. Here's the kicker... she had no personality. She had nothing to talk about. At all. We talked about classes, her work, and that... was... it. I had to bring up every single thing to talk about. Really... really... boring.

So I wasn't interested in her anymore.

[ihatewestseneca]

I always question people that tell me that they're "very good looking"...

really? How good looking are you? are you THAT good looking?

appearance is somewhat the triggering mechanism, but really, it's everything else. it applies to both guys and girls. For instance, I went on a date with a girl who was...absolutely...gorgeous. really. my friends kept egging me on about how I got her. looked just like megan fox. here's the kicker...she had no personality. she had nothing to talk about. at all. we talked about classes, her work, and that...was...it. I had to bring up every single thing to talk about. really...really...boring.

so I wasn't interested in her anymore.

This is true, I went out with this girl last night, she's in one of my classes... she was one of those girls where I have to question why she is even talking to me. But yeah, gorgeous! Yet, I was really bored, I may be a sucker for a cute face but if there's nothing interesting coming out of those lips, I find it really hard to keep attracted... if I was a weaker man however...

[talaniman]

How important is the looks of a guy.

To those who need it a lot. As important as the looks of a female to those that need it. Eye candy is great, but substance, and quality, is what makes mate material, or even a good date.

[Raazipond]

In most of the cases, its not mutually exclusive!
If a girl/ guy look really good, she/ he need not actually be a dumb person. If that's the case, no one would marry a beautiful girl!

The question here is, I feel this guy is not great looks and if it is not really good to judge a guy on looks- esp if I intend to date him?

And how good I look?- I do look above average and winner of the state beauty pagent..
Should I just check if he loves me- criteria?

I need advice please!

[talaniman]

No matter about looks, taking the time to know someone, is the key. Isn't that's what dating is all about? Connection, spark, or intense feelings, are deceptive at first meetings, but over time the actions, can be judged against the words. If your feelings can stand the test of time, you may have something, but how many posts on this forum start with, everything was perfect, except something changed, and we broke up. Take the time, as love is in no hurry, and face it, everyone is on good behavior in the dating phase, its when things get moved along, you start to see things in a more realistic light, as our true natures emerge, if your not blinded by love. Reality is a harsh teacher, and going slow can benefit any couple that thinks they have a chance at something more.

[talaniman]

Should I just check if he loves me- criteria?

You'll never know without a lot of investigation. Love on a first date? Naw, not while your strangers, and it may happen, but not normal.

The question here is, I feel this guy is not great looks and if it is not really good to judge a guy on looks- esp if I intend to date him?

What do looks matter in dating someone? Get to know the person, and you'll know if they are date material.

[HistorianChick]

Looks are as important as you make them.

You only eat the ice cream you like - if you don't like coffee ice cream, you don't eat coffee ice cream.

Same thing with looks. If you don't like what you see you have the choice to pursue or not to pursue...

But you never know what you're missing... who knows, coffee ice cream might be your ice cream nirvana...

Until you try, you'll never know...

(another random HC analogy! :) Totally superficial, but hey, it works!)

[Alty]

When you first meet someone looks are what attract you to that person. I don't think you're giving this guy a fair chance. Obviously you were attracted to something about him otherwise you wouldn't have agreed to a date. Give it a chance, looks aren't everything, personality, intelligence, humor are much more important in the long run. Remember, beauty fades, dumb lasts forever.

[nilgajera]

Hey, you are looking good or not is not important,your characteristics is important
Be positive guy!!

[susangpyp]

Beauty is as beauty does.

I know a lot of physically good looking people who are complete losers because of how they treat people.

As Judge Judy says (and Altenweg quotes): Beauty fades. Dumb is forever.

:)

[sasha_1]

The OP is asking for beauty as well as age. Age is very important, you don't wan to be going with a guy who is too young or too old than you, as the mentality will not match. 3 years difference is optimal according to me, others may have different choices.

As for looks, it does matter for the initial attraction, and once that fades off, it is the inner qualities of a person which may turn it to love, or absolutely get you bored.

Many many times people we meet have told my husband that he is very lucky to get me, as I am soooo beautiful. Most of the time I feel they are just being nice to me, but I have never felt any kind of comparison as I am totally attached to my hubby for the inner qualities and the love he has for me.

And if you become serious about someone and want to spend your life with him, think about years ahead, when both of you will become old, child bearing, child rearing, menopause, house work, office work, school, college etc will wear you down. Just think if that man is going to love you the same.

[whyohwhy]

Remember, beauty fades, dumb lasts forever.

I love that!!

Looks are what attracts me and intelligence/personality is what would keep me.

Someone once told me that a cute face is more important than the body. The cute face will last forever while the body won't always look so great. :D