[love01]

I am a gay man, and I am sooo in love with another man who is in a relationship with someone else (a man)... We had what I thought was a relationship but he came out and told me six months in the relationship that he was in a relationship with someone else and he was feeling guilty by lying to me about it, he apologized for lying to me and I accepted his apology and told him that my feelings for him have not changed, and he told me that he love me and he still tells me he loves me, but what I am confused on is... he is still with this other guy and he is always telling me how he wants to be out of the relationship with him, but he is still with him. Every time I even think about cutting him out of my life I just start crying because my love for him is so deep. I am hurting so bad right now because right now he is with him and I don't know what they are doing... Someone please help me because I don't know what to do.

[tickle]

The other person is probably providing something that he needs that you are not able to give, or could be he likes the opportunity of having someone else on the side. If he is not willing to be with you full time and offering excuses, then I would cut your losses and move on. Love is an easy word to say at the time, and some people use it quite usefully to suit their own purposes.

[susangpyp]

Love is an action. Decency is an action. Loyalty is an action.

He has demonstrated none of the above. He's cheating on someone while stringing someone else along. Even if he's fun to be with or whatever, his moral character is lacking. And what he does WITH you, he'll do TO you.

My suggestion is to move on and find someone who appreciates you and wants to be with you. Someone whose actions and words are in line with each other. Someone who means what they say and say what they mean.

You deserve better than this. Move on and find it!

[CSW6314]

I'm sorry that your going through this. Actially I went through the same thing an end the end I got hurt for trying to hold on. I think you should just let him go. If he loved you like he said he would have left the other guy immediately an worked on repairing the trust he broke by lying. I think he enjoys having you to run back whenever he feels like it and its not fair. I know its going to hurt really bad (I cried for 2 weeks) but you have to put your foot down an let him go. Good luck