[love_pup_321]

My husband and I have a boy,and we are trying to have another but I really want a girl and all the children born on my husbands side of the family are all boys. My husband has all brothers the brothers all have boys and it dates back to my husbands great grandfather NO GIRLS AT ALL. My husband on the other hand does not want to adopt because he does not want to look at the child and wonder who the real parents are. I on the other hand think there are so many children out there in the world that need to have a loveing home and parents that would take care of the child and be able to give them whatever they need. Now I don't have all the money in the world but I believe that if we adopted this child would truly be loved with no doubt.

My question what can I say to my husband to encourage him to want to adopt a girl.

[Synnen]

Well, MY question to YOU is---how old of a girl are you planning to adopt?

Yes, there are a lot of kids out there that need parents, but most of them are NOT infants, or even toddlers. Are you willing to look at getting a kindergartener or older in order to have a girl? Believe it or not, with infertility on the rise, and more women choosing to be single parents than who choose adoption--adopting an infant, ESPECIALLY a baby, just isn't as easy as you'd think. Ask any woman who has been on a waiting list for years for an adoption.

Also--with adopting an older child (especially through the foster care system)--are you ready to deal with any issues that child may have about memories of birth parents, or abuse, or neglect?

Secondly--I am the first female born on my dad's side of the family in 5 generations. I was followed shortly thereafter by a sister and 4 female cousins before another boy was born. Don't discount YOUR genetics in getting a female child as well.

I seem to have a lot of questions for you, instead of answering YOUR question--but I want to see how much you have actually looked into adoption yourself. There are plenty of facts you could share with your husband--but if you're really looking to adopt, I suggest you talk to an adoption counselor first, to make SURE you understand what you may be getting into. Adoption isn't just walking into an agency and walking out with an infant, and worrying about contacting the birthparents when the child is "older" or "18" or whatever, anymore, and most people just starting to look at adoptions have a very 1950s view about them. So--are YOU prepared for everything that comes with a modern adoption? Because if you don't have all the facts, you can't convince your husband of anything.

Frankly--I have been trying for seven years to have a child. I'd just be happy with "healthy" at this point. The gender wouldn't make a fig of a difference to me.

[FeelSoNumbZombie]

Adoption.com has a gazillion children who are probably in foster care that could only wish to have a loving home. You can view their pic's.